Imagine at this current moment right now, if someone were to knock at your door and offer you a pizza free of charge, no gimmick behind it, but at the same time you can’t eat any other kind of pizza for quite a long time, and even for the rest of your life. That’s a pretty daring situation to be involved with, eh? Well, that’s the metaphor I’ve been using in the realm of dating for quite a while now.
Before I start off, I’m not trying to say you should go door to door offering people you want to date, pizza. I mean, it might work, but at the same time if it doesn’t, don’t blame me.
Aside from that, the metaphor still stands. As a completely individual person, you’re going to meet a lot, and I mean A LOT of people throughout your lifetime. Metaphorically speaking, you’re going to meet A LOT of pizzas throughout your lifetime. You’ll meet people you think you’re going to click with, and later find out that it didn’t pan out according to how you thought, and you’ll be met with the opposite, in which someone you pass off for whatever reason ends up actually being pretty cool. At the end of the day, though, sometimes we get pretty hungry, and kind of just take whatever type we can get at the current moment, look back, and regret it. The reality of that situation, though, is that you can’t look at it in a negative light, simply because it didn’t bring about the happiest of times because in reality you now know that you don’t mesh with that kind of person (you don’t like that kind of pizza).
It’s also important to note that everyone does have their preferences in life for what they're searching for, and some people find greater happiness in a significant other, to a degree that it’s actually a little scary from the outside looking in. In situations like these, it’s best to keep the criticism in the mind, mainly because at the end of the day we’re really all just searching for someone to go back to after a rough day, or rather, a nice pizza to go back to after a rough day. On the other end of the spectrum, sometimes people like to just let loose and (for lack of a better term), get around, and honestly, you can’t really criticize that either. Pizza is pretty good, and as long as there’s nothing wrong with it on a health level, you can’t knock someone for trying out a bunch of different types.
Another aspect of the metaphor that I’ve learned to embrace is that it’s pretty great to have a pizza in my life, but only if it’s one that I genuinely enjoy. If someone offers me a pie covered in fish and olives, I’m going to give it a shot, but it probably won’t end up sticking around for a while. Now on a realistic level, if you encounter someone that you don’t actually click with, you’ve got to just accept that you won’t be changing your Facebook relationship status next week because it’s just not meant to be. One thing that’s worse than being sad that you’re single, is being stuck in a relationship that you don’t want to be in. Plus, it’s just not fair to the other person. I like to think that individually, we each have certain people that we’re destined to encounter, and later form meaningful relationships, some of these sexual and emotional, but that can’t happen properly if we attempt to hold on to the first thing that we find, specifically if it isn’t the right fit.
Now the final, and in my personal opinion, most important aspect of the metaphor is: Your happiness does not revolve around constantly having a pizza in your life. It sounds like a pretty sweet deal, being able to wake up, come home, or go to bed every night knowing that you’ve got someone in your life you can talk to, but conversely, it is undoubtedly not a requirement to happiness in any way. Some people luck out and find their perfect fit at an early period, and that’s an amazing situation to be in, yet some of us are still looking around for the perfect pizza, and that’s ok too. At the end of the day, we’ve got a pretty long journey ahead of us, and as stated earlier, we’re going to meet a lot of people. Also stated earlier, we’re going to encounter a lot of pizzas in our life, and just when you think things may be losing hope, just remember that somewhere out there, there’s a personal pan pizza with your name on it, just waiting to make you happy, it just might take a little while for the delivery driver to get to your door.
