There's this massive misconception floating around: that "perfect" is ideal. At first glance, it doesn't seem like a misconception at all. After all, who doesn't want to be "perfect?" It's a nice idea, and you'd be a liar to say it isn't. Imagine: perfect hair, perfect skin, perfect personality, perfect body, perfect everything. Who wouldn't want that?
Well, I might be in the minority saying this, but I wouldn't. After years of chasing after perfection -- years of self-criticism and frustration -- I realized at last that not only is perfection unattainable, it's also undesirable. It would be a lie to say that sometimes, it's not tempting to want all of those seemingly "perfect" attributes, but I have started to acknowledge that if you take someone's unique quirks, traits, and imperfections away from them, you are essentially taking away who they are.
The idea of "perfection" is seductive because it can trick you into believing that, if you were perfect, life would be easier. That you wouldn't have to face trials and conquer obstacles, if only you had "perfect" going for you. Well, perhaps life would be easier, but it would be a watered-down, boring version of what it is now.
Imagine your life without your so-called "imperfections." For a moment, it might seem grand. But think long-term. Who would you be without your goofy laugh, or without that funny little squint you make in photographs? Who would you be without your crooked smile or without your occasional awkward moment? You'd be a carbon-copy of everybody else.
Furthermore, take people who claim to be "perfect" with a grain of salt. It isn't humanly possible, so if someone seems too good to be true, just remember "perfect" isn't possible.
Be radical and have confidence despite your supposed shortcomings. By doing that, you're inviting others to do the same.
Break the cycle. Love yourself, imperfections and all.
