As you successfully move up in your career/ life goals there is one thing that is inevitable— people are bound to show some sign of hate and/or jealousy. The worst part about coming to this realization is that you’re more than likely receiving this from those closest to you. So the question in the air is, “how an I supposed to deal with that?”
To summarize everything, all in all, the only major advice I could give anyone is continue to do and be great, because haters aren’t gonna do anything but continue to hate. Use that hate and jealousy as fuel to your fire that will motivate you every single day to do what they can’t. Chances are they’re trying to find a flaw within you because their insecurities are blatant and they're intimidated that you’re doing what they can’t.
Do you have one of these people in your life? And if you’re unsure or don’t know, Would you know how to identify a person like this and how to properly deal with it? That’s okay if you don’t, let me help you spot out those people and encourage you on what you should do in the event that you’re dealing with this.
Everyone knows what guilt is right? It’s that prolonging feeling of doing something wrong and you feel terrible afterward, emphasis on the word prolonging because it can really eat away at you. In my own experiences I’ve learned that when someone is jealous of your achievements, they’ll stop at nothing to try and make you feel guilty for just that.
It's the sad reality but don't think for one second you've done anything wrong in this case, because obviously, you haven't, but realize this guilt they're trying to make you feel is coming from a deeply rooted place inside of them that's making them feel guilty about themselves and them not being able to bask in the success you may be stepping into---basically, they're throwing onto you how they really feel about themselves.
It's also good to come to the realization that some people are just angry at themselves. What I mean by this is that some people will see the tough stuff you have to endure, how hard you've worked, and how dedicated you've been in trying to attain your success and how that came with some type of sacrifice. Sacrifice---something they weren't willing to make.
Ultimately, you both can put in the same amount of work doing the same thing, but when you're the one who comes out on top. Be prepared for the wrath of envy to spew from within them only because there's an insecurity there because they're upset that they weren't willing to make the same sacrifices as you to get to where you are.
When someone is jealous of your success they will try to steer the spotlight away from you and what you've just been granted and direct it to them and what they lack. For example, say you and a close friend both works in the same establishment and the both of you are supposed to be getting promotions. Let's say that something comes up that is preventing your friend from getting the promotion along with you and when you finally do get the promotion, instead of being happy for you and supportive they're more focused on them not getting the promotion and why they didn't.
This scenario ties back to my point of those jealous of your success trying to make you feel "guilty" because in the event that something like what I just mentioned above happens, you being the good friend you are will try to console your friend, in spite of them not showing their support, and may even feel bad for them. If this is something you have or will ever face, it's important to ask yourself the question "does this friend/person feel like I'm less than deserving of this because I received this over them", and if it's a blatant yes...cut that friend/person out of your life ASAP!
So now you know, it shouldn't be hard to pinpoint out when/why people are jealous of you but if you're ever struggling, just refer back to this.
