To The People Who Are Spoiled Or Bankrolled By Their Parents, You're Lucky

To The People Who Are Spoiled Or Bankrolled By Their Parents, You're Lucky

You sure are lucky.

I have noticed an uprise of posts and articles regarding people who are in college and that they are funded a lot by their parents throughout it.

Some of them stating that their parents will send them money whenever they ask, pay for their food, textbooks, fees, whatever they need paid and that they don't need a job because their parents want them to focus on school. I'm not saying that that isn't a wonderful advantage because, it is, not worrying about finances throughout college, but in reality, I know my parents would love to help me out during my college career but they simply can't because they can't afford it, and just because they can't afford it, doesn't mean that they don't want me to succeed in college.

There were times throughout my life where my mom couldn't even buy me underwear when I was younger because she couldn't afford it, of course it's a lot better now, but they still can't just send me $100 whenever I ask. People will ask me, "why aren't you renting a house next year?" "Why can't you go out and get lunch?" Because, I pay for my own things and I use my own money, not my parents. So that's why I can't get a house next year because my parents would not be paying rent for it like some people's parents do, I would have to with my own money. I am in school full-time and work 2 jobs on campus and just applied for a paid internship. Just because my parents can't send me money every week doesn't mean that they don't love or support me, it's because they can't sometimes. I saw in a different article that said we are supposed to be well supported by our parents because that's what their supposed to do, I do agree but I also disagree. Good parents are supposed to support us, but my parents cannot support me financially like some other parents can support their child financially, and I'm okay with that. I know my parents work hard and totally would support me if they could.

Like I stated above, it is an awesome benefit to have your parents pay for everything while you're making your way through the first stages of adulthood, but truly, it does make me somewhat angry. Why? Because I wish it could happen to me and I'm sure people who are like me would agree. It's not jealousy either, it's more of "I wish that could happen to me so I didn't have to deal with all this extra stress." But, there is nothing wrong if you are well supported by your parents. Like I said before, I just wish I was that lucky. I work hard to apply for a lot of grants and scholarships so I can get to college next year. I paid for my first year of college all by myself without a single cent from my parents, because sometimes, I still watch them scramble with money and it makes me want to strive to be successful so I can help them in the future, like they've helped me throughout my entire life by supplying me with an endless amount of love. I struggle here and there with my finances and it can be really tolling on me, but it appears that most of these people that are getting things paid for complain about how difficult and stressful college is, and I don't blame them, because it is quite stressful sometimes, but try working 2 jobs during all that and then having more stress added on to your shoulders because you don't quite know how you're going to pay that bill that you have or that fee that you owe. And me having 2 jobs isn't making me focus less on school, I finished my last semester with a high GPA.

Of course some people have it worse than I do, my mom pays for my cell phone bill and my car insurance, but I pay for everything else. It's not like they let me go without sometimes either, every couple of months, my mom will drop $40 in my bank account or my dad will give me $20 when I see him. But overall, yeah, it sucks sometimes, especially when you have to drop $150 of your own money on a textbook that you end up reading maybe twice that semester. But honestly, I like to do it on my own sometimes because it's teaching me what the world is going to be like after college.

I will feel prouder than ever when I walk across that stage in 3 years because I have done it all on my own and achieved something so great with barely any help and have showed my parents that I did it and I am independent, but just because your parents paid for your college doesn't mean you shouldn't feel any less proud than me when you graduate as well, you just happened to be luckier than me.

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I'm The College Girl Who Likes Trump And Hates Feminism, And Living On A Liberal Campus Is Terrifying

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.


I will get right to the point: being a conservative on a liberal college campus in 2019 downright terrifying.

At my university, I'm sure about 90% of the population, both students and faculty, are liberals. They are very outspoken, never afraid to express their views, opinions, and feelings in several ways. There are pride events for the LGBT community, a huge celebration for MLK day, and tons of events for feminists.

Then there's the minority: the conservatives. The realists. The "racists," "bigots," and "the heartless." I am everything the liberals absolutely despise.

I like Donald Trump because he puts America first and is actually getting things done. He wants to make our country a better place.

I want a wall to keep illegals out because I want my loved ones and me to be safe from any possible danger. As for those who are genuinely coming here for a better life, JUST FILL OUT THE PAPERWORK INSTEAD OF SNEAKING AROUND.

I'm pro-life; killing an infant at nine months is inhumane to me (and yet liberals say it's inhumane to keep illegals out…but let's not get into that right now).

I hate feminism. Why? Because modern feminism isn't even feminism. Slandering the male species and wanting to take down the patriarchy is just ridiculous.

I hate the media. I don't trust anyone in it. I think they are all biased, pathological liars. They purposely make our president look like the devil himself, leaving out anything good he does.

I will not sugarcoat it: I don't feel safe on my own campus.

I mostly keep my opinions to myself out of fear. When I end up getting one of my "twisted" and "uneducated" thoughts slip out, I cringe, waiting for the slap in the face.

Don't get me wrong; not everyone at my university is hostile to those who think differently than they do.

I've shared my opinions with some liberal students and professors before, and there was no bloodshed. Sure, we may not see eye to eye, but that's okay. That just means we can understand each other a little better.

Even though the handful of students and faculty I've talked to were able to swallow my opinions, I'm still overwhelmed by the thousands of other people on campus who may not be as kind and attentive. But you can't please everybody. That's just life.

Your school is supposed to be a safe environment where you can be yourself. Just because I think differently than the vast majority of my peers doesn't mean I deserve to be a target for ridicule. No one conservative does. Scratch that, NO ONE DOES.

I don't think I'll ever feel safe.

Not just on campus, but anywhere. This world is a cruel place. All I can do is stand firm in my beliefs and try to tolerate and listen to the clashing opinions of others. What else can I do?

All I can say is... listen. Be nice. Be respectful of other's opinions, even if you strongly disagree. Besides, we all do have one thing in common: the desire for a better country.

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Why I Love Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, not for political reasons

I don't want to talk about political beliefs necessarily when I talk about why I fucking love AOC.


My political affiliation couldn't be kept a secret even if I tried. In the words of my mother, I've been a liberal since I popped out of the womb. So to me, the dramatic change in representation in the House was a huge win for me at this time in history.

While I sit on one side of the aisle because that's where I hear the most conversations about my closest political beliefs happening, I don't want to talk about political beliefs necessarily when I talk about why I fucking love Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez.

The first I'd ever heard of this powerful voice from New York was in a video being shared around on Facebook that gave me a strong sense of hope that I haven't felt in a while. She explains the nuance behind "identity politics" and the importance of complete representation in Congress in terms of race, class, and policy. Here was a young woman in my generation (or just outside of it) running for Congress because she knew there was work to be done, not because she knew she would win, or because of some larger force paying her to win, or because she comes from a family of politicians. She ran because she was passionate and because she works to understand her district and represent them in ways that give her district a matched fight with revolving-door politicians who know how to play the game.

This woman, to me, represents accessibility into politics for Americans. When I first started listening to politicians and presidents talk on TV, I remember listening to Obama speak my freshman year of high school (maybe for a state of the union address?) and I asked my mom what a lot of words meant. I learned what poverty, immigration, economic policy, taxes, the middle-class, and more were. She had answers for some but not all of my questions, and then I asked why they felt the need to use such big, intimidating words? Weren't they supposed to represent the country, who to my understanding, probably didn't know what all of these words meant if my own mother didn't? (Moms know everything.)

I didn't want to be left behind in a country that made decisions based on Harvard graduate levels of thinking when most of us were in fact, not Harvard graduates. I was aware when Obama used words I had on a vocabulary test the week before, and I was aware that my honors class was strikingly different from my friends' general education English classes, and that our entire high school was years ahead of some less privileged schools 30-minutes away. But all of us, no matter how politically accessible our situations were or not, were to be represented by a man using these words.

AOC is progressive (in a non-political sense) for Americans because she uses rhetoric and tools to educate Americans instead of persuading or intimidating them to think that she just knows best. She's a politician, yes, so of course she uses persuasive techniques to get policy she believes in to pass so she can do her job as a legislator. But have you seen her Instagram stories or heard her speak in interviews?

Her style of leadership involves a refreshing level of transparency and group participation. I feel like I'm allowed to ask questions about what happens in Washington D.C., and about what another congressperson meant when they said ______. She answers questions like these online to her followers, some of which are her represented correspondents, and some of which are people outside of her district just desperate to expose themselves to any congressperson willing to talk to them on their level. Her flow inspires the average American to listen and checks the confident incumbent from underestimating just how much she knows.

Not all of us are fortunate enough to afford college. Not all of us are fortunate enough to come from a community where high schools prepared and primed us for college-level vocabulary filled conversations. Some of us have to accept politics as a realm with which we can never be involved, heard, or interactive. A.O.C. is what's changing this mentality. 43% of adults living in poverty function at low literacy rates. If they can't understand political rhetoric, how will they be able to democratically participate? Politicians spend so much time talking about poverty rates and how they want to move every family into a middle-class lifestyle, but they don't alter their political approach to invite the poverty-stricken or under-educated Americans into their conversations. AOC does this.

She spends time every night explaining whatever her followers have questions about in full detail. She actually uses up-to-date technology and social media to communicate with Americans, making older senators look lazy or technologically incompetent for not engaging with their community as often or as explicitly. Not to mention, every video I've ever seen produced by her or her team (including her Instagram stories) have closed-captions already edited in. She considers every American to be her audience before speaking, and the fact that what she's doing feels new and refreshing to me suggests just how badly we need her, and more people like her, in politics today.

This isn't even because of her understanding that literacy affects voting--in the original video I saw of her, she understands that the people she represents were flat-out not being addressed in politics. "People aren't voting because no one is speaking to them." Truly and meaningfully, directly and honestly.

She's America's teacher, a representative of why mentorship on all levels is important, and to me, what America would look like if our politicians were not only our representatives, but our educators, our mentors, and our teammates.

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