Texting, talking on the phone, hanging out during the day, introducing you to his family... if none of those factors have ever occurred and he only talks to you on Snapchat, welcome to your days of being a side piece. If you look up the definition of a side piece, the online world will show you the word mistress or a man that carries a physical affair with a woman instead of an emotional one. Sound familiar?
Well, I discovered this feeling of confusion and not being good enough and after two years, I finally can admit to myself that I may have been a side piece all this while and that even though it is not the best feeling, I am OK with it.
Sneaking around, brushing your purely physical affection under the table and not telling a single soul has made me realize that there are mixed emotions of sticking attentively on the side. If you have never heard the expression regarding if someone tells you a secret, your best friend automatically knows that secret as well because she or he is practically part of you. Well, I have several best friends and not telling a single soul about secretive emotions is not in the books.
How do you realize you are his side piece or one of his side pieces? If he has a girlfriend or he is "talking" to someone else, consider yourself a team player. But somehow the little attention he gives you is just enough and even though his girlfriend seems sweetly in love, there is something mysterious about him that keeps you wanting more.
A cheater, a player or a piece of s**t, for some un-forsaken reason keeps attracting girls who can't help but feed into what they offer and on a daily basis I wonder what is so enticing about them because, in reality, they should be the ugliest guys on the inside and out. Yet, it is an indescribable feeling that eventually makes you num and willing to follow their rules.
After being hurt by almost a handful of guys, your emotions eventually turn into some giant ball of static that you don't know what to do with. For example, after a break-up, you may be in some rebound phase that makes you a tad selfish and at the end of the day that is okay because your ex may have put you through hell. But during that rebound phase, you could be thirsty for any guy that gives you the slightest attention (yes, I used the word thirsty). That one guy giving you attention may or may not have a girlfriend and yet you may not seem to care and have no explanation why.
Once your emotions run cold, whatever game you are playing could get you in trouble and you become willing to accept the consequences.
Whether you have history with a guy that has you on the side or are new in his life, don't let him ever make you feel not worthy. Being on the sidelines could run mixed emotions but whatever his end goal is, do not let him play you — if anything, play HIM and stay in charge of the boundaries. At least this way you will have some sense of control and even though you think you can gain stability out of this, he will most likely always choose his girlfriend and that is what you need to accept if you are willing to play on his side.
