Time is one interesting aspect in our lives.
Some feel like there are not enough hours in the day and some might feel like there might be too much. Within this, we make mistakes, we plan out our futures, we dream and we create. It's life. We were put on this earth to be all that we possibly can be and it is up to us to make decisions on whatever makes us comfortable and content with life.
See but the thing is, we seem to not ever live in the 'present'. We're always dwelling on the past mistakes we have made, past relationships that were toxic or figuring out what to do in the present that will benefit us later on and only for that reason. Have you noticed this? We're never in the 'now'.
Ask yourself this: Do I know what I will even be having for dinner two weeks from now?
Chances are, you don't have a definite answer. You may have an idea, but not a set out definite answer.
You're not a fortune teller, and honestly as much as you try to make it right— you will never have any clue on what is coming around the corner. Good or bad.
As much as you try to avoid conflict, or everyday issues that all of us go through— they're still going to happen. Not one bit of this is promised.
Past decisions and mistakes surely do put you at a sense of taking some precautionary measures on certain situations, but they still won't promise you an outcome that you favor. Past relationships that are toxic make you put this guard up that stop you from creating new ones. I get it.
The past is what we learn from and that's all it is. In my opinion, there's no reason to dwell on it and cause yourself to not move on from life. That's not where you are in life anymore. And it's the same for the future. You don't know what you're having for dinner next week, let alone what you will be doing for the rest of your life. So, yeah, plan it out. Graduation, marriage, kids, perfect job, perfect home. What happens then? You're done? What happens if this isn't the way it goes? Will you feel like you failed at life? Will you just give up because it didn't go as easy as you thought it would?
I live by thinking that if I dwell over the past, I'm not making room for opportunities in order to grow and move on. I'm not thinking about the future and planning out all of my accomplishments setting plans A through Z if they don't work out. Thinking that things will definitely happen without facing reality and not accepting that within a year— or maybe even sooner, something might come up and you may have to put some things on hold is what leaves people scatter brained, left to be set in a place where they're not comfortable or maybe even worse— let them give up on everything they had intended.
So, I see it as a set up for failure that you're creating for yourself.
Worrying about the past and future is what creates anxiety for me. So, my point is that I would rather not think about it. Tune it out and live in the 'now'. Yes— I'm creating opportunities now for myself to benefit short term, but assuming that long term goals will happen is what I can't seem to understand about people and can't seem to find myself going through with.
It might sound as if I'm expecting the worst, but from my perspective I feel like I'm just thinking realistically. Like I said, living in the 'now'.
So, what are you doing?
