To The Parent That Walked Out

To The Parent That Walked Out

Life's Been Good To Me Since You've Gone


I never thought I'd sit back and say those words. To the parent that walked out - Life's been good to me since you've gone. But it's true.

No, in case you're wondering, that parent isn't dead. They're still around somewhere. Living a miserable and angry life. Playing the victim at any opportunity. Telling lies about other people. Telling stories that can't be corroborated and that aren't true. Making up things for years as time goes along. But to the son that they once had? Life sure has been good to me since you're gone.

There is no bullying. There is no intimidating. There is no criticism of everything I do. There are no insulting comments about the life I choose to live. There are no negative comments about the places I go to. There are no derogatory statements about what I choose to do with my life. And there is no abuse. Yes. Abuse. I said it. You can't abuse me anymore. You can't psychologically, emotionally or verbally abuse me. It's over.

Life's been good to me since you're gone.

I hope you're enjoying your life. But chances are, all these years later, you're still lying. You're still making up stories. You're still playing the victim. You're still trying to make people feel sorry for you. You aren't perfect. You never were. You won't ever be. But you were good at abusing everyone around you. Bullying them. Intimidating them. Verbally abusing them. Emotionally and psychologically abusing them. And you still are.

You just can't do it to me anymore.

I have a mother that I can't talk to because I am absolutely certain you abuse her, bully her, intimidate her and make her feel that she's not allowed to talk to her only son. I have a sister that I can finally talk to after years. I'm certain that a lot of things have to do with why we didn't talk. You were most likely one of them. I have a brother that still won't talk to me. And I'm sure why. You've filled everyone's heads with lies. You've told things that weren't true. You made up stories to look like the victim.

And now? I never thought I'd see the day that I"m glad you're gone.

Oh, you're still out there. I"m sure that when the conversation comes up, you take full advantage of lying about what happened, lying about why we don't talk, making up stories to make people feel sorry for you and not even bothering to act like a man and sit down and talk to me. But it's okay. I won't forgive you. Nor will I forget the things you've said and done. But I'll say this - You can't abuse me anymore.

You are that parent that walked out on me. You have no idea what I've done in almost ten years. I have children that won't even talk to you. I have nothing to do with it. You disgust them. They can't stand the way that you talk about me. They can't stand the lies you tell about me. They can't stand the way you act. And they want nothing to do with you. For the record, I have no problems if my kids had a relationship with you. But they know how you are. Who you are. The lies you tell. The way you abuse and mistreat people. And they've grown up to finally realize they don't want you doing that to them either.

It's been a long time. I've finally accepted that you're out there. But you're not coming back. I understand and accept that we won't ever talk again. The next time I see you will most likely be at your funeral (If I'm allowed to attend). And I accept that. I understand that. I wish no bad ill will on you. I wish no harm to you. I won't even say anything negative about you. Even though you're the parent that walked out on me and never looked back.

But here it is - Life's sure been good to me since you're gone.

I wish you well. And I say goodbye. I hope you got what you wanted.

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The rest of your life begins today.

Dear High School Senior,

Today's the day you've been waiting for your whole life. You'll wake up a little earlier than usual, brush your teeth and go downstairs for your last breakfast as a high school student. Your mom will look at you with tears running down her cheeks wondering how her baby grew up so quickly. Your friends will be texting your group message non-stop with words of disbelief, wondering where the time went. You guys made it to the day you've been counting down to all year long.

You'll start to reminisce on things like your first pep rally and the dorky outfits you wore freshman year. You'll laugh at things your old teachers did and remember the ones who left to teach somewhere else. You'll wonder how the guys in your grade actually managed to grow up and laugh at how young you all looked when you had just begun. You'll remember all of the football games you attended and consider how strange it will be seeing other people wearing your guy friends' numbers when the Thanksgiving game rolls around. You'll drive by the soccer field and think of all the blood, sweat and tears you gave to it over your high school career.

You'll recall your first real kiss and joke about how upset you were when the first boy broke your heart. It'll feel like yesterday when you walk through those doors for the final time and look around at all of the empty lockers. You'll gather with your classmates together in the same place for the last time and think about how you're all going to be in different places next year. You'll be excited but nervous because in a few hours, life as you know it will change.

So before you sit down to hear the Valedictorian's speech and walk the stage to receive your diploma, make sure you take the time to appreciate the memories you made in those halls. Thank your teachers, even the difficult ones, because when you're sitting down in your first college class, you'll feel grateful for the work they made you do. Thank your parents for supporting you. It's not easy raising a teenager, but they did not give up on you regardless of how brutal puberty was.

Thank your friends. They're the ones that got you through your first heartbreak and made sure that you were going to be okay. They listened to your complaints after a big fight with your mom, even if they thought you were wrong. They forgave you when you were wrong and understood your bad days. They stood up for you when you got yourself in a bad situation. They brought you coffee when you didn't have time to get it yourself. They took you home when you couldn't make it there alone. They celebrated your good news and helped you through the bad. They made you laugh uncontrollably and created memories that you'll hold on to forever. They made you who you are today.

After you receive your diploma and throw your cap in the air, make the most of the time you have left with your high school friends before you all head off to college. You only have a few months before you're sitting in a dorm room surrounded by unfamiliar faces. Work, but don't forget that memories last longer than money. Go to the beach, take lots of pictures, go out on Friday nights and enjoy the days that summer has to give. Trust me, college will be awesome, but you'll never be the same person that you are today.


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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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