The new season of ABC’s "The Bachelorette" is premiering soon and everyone who watches "The Bachelorette" is going to be in an “I want to be in love” mood. Whenever this show is on, all of a sudden, people want to be in relationships. On top of that, it’s summer, and people want a summer fling.
Except me; I’m over love.
I’m simply over it. We are all so young and wanting to rush into a serious relationship to find the one, meanwhile, we still have our parents set up our doctor’s appointments.
It’s not that I’m against love or being in relationships, I’m just against everyone dying to be in one. When you’re in college you don’t need to date someone because everyone else is dating; you don’t need to post everywhere to be “goals." I feel like the only reason people want to date is because they see others doing it and they want to do it to fit in.
Love is not a trend. You don’t date someone just because your friends are in relationships, you date them because you genuinely enjoy their company and want more than a friendship with them. All the while they are still your best friend, your support system, and your significant other.
I’m over love because I’m not going to break my back to find it. I’ve never been in love and I’m only 19. Some people might say that I just haven’t found the right one yet. Well, I certainly hope not because all of these boys are showing me how immature they are at this age. I need a man. I’m not saying he has to be perfect because I’m not. I’m not saying he has to be rich because I’m not. I’m saying I’m willing to wait to find someone I can truly love with all of my heart and won’t have to worry about him liking things on Twitter.
I don’t mean to imply that if you’re in love now that you’re a fool. You’ve found someone you can be yourself with and that’s amazing. This is for everyone that thinks they have to be in a relationship because they’re lonely or because all of their friends are with someone so they have to be. Those are simply not reasons to date someone. You date someone once you’ve learned to love yourself, because like RuPaul says, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”
I’m not against love. I don’t hate anyone that’s in a relationship. I’m just over love being a trend for people to post on social media because they are “#goals.” I’m in no rush to find the one, I’m only 19. People should date because they legitimately like the person not because they want someone to complete them. You’re already complete, find someone that can only add to your life.
