Heartbreak is a part of everyone's life in one way or another. Most of the time, we do not see it coming and after our hearts are broken, we are left with hundreds of questions and a sense of emptiness. In the days and weeks after a break up, it is hard to know what to do or what to say. But, hindsight is 20/20. So, I decided to ask some of the women I look up to the most about past heartbreak and find out what they would go back and tell themselves right after it happened. Here's what they had to say:
1. "It'll get better. You'll get over it eventually, even if it takes awhile. You'll find someone new, and you'll love them so much more than you ever thought possible. Your person is out there, but they weren't your person. " -Nina
2. "This too shall pass." -Callie
3. "It'll hurt today. It'll hurt tomorrow. It'll be the worst pain you have ever experienced. And you'll live through it. Somehow. You'll think about it first thing when you wake up for awhile. But one day, it'll be the second. Someday, I've heard, it gets pushed back to the third, fourth, and last thing you think about. If you think about him at all." -Alexis
4. "Don't pretend it doesn't hurt. Call your friends for help. Skip a class. Eat. Just make sure you're okay." -Anonymous
5. "Stop putting poison into your body to get him out of your head. It doesn't work like that. Stop making it a habit to keep people in your life if they've proven they don't care about you." -Sam
6. "It will take a while to get over it and just take your time, because everyone heals differently. Also it's really weird not having that one person that you see and talk to every day. And that you may feel like you can't live without that one person, you can! And honestly just stay strong and no matter how much you want to talk to them and be part of their lives within those first couple of months after the break up, don't because it will just make you even more upset about everything." -Natalie
7. "You'll learn a lot from this. You'll learn who to trust and why and you'll learn more about who you are." -Anonymous
8. "It's ok to be single. Sometimes relationships end unexpectedly and it sucks, but it's often when you learn the most about yourself. Remember the hurt and sadness won't last forever. Also this is the time to enjoy being with your friends, they will appreciate having you all to themselves again!" -Rachel
9. "HE'S A F*CKBOIIII!!!!" -Maria
10. "As girls, our first tendency is to blame ourselves for a break up. We begin to wonder what is wrong with us, what we did wrong, and how we can fix the relationship. Over time, we tend to develop an angry attitude towards the boy who broke our hearts. We use this anger as a way to detach ourselves and begin to move on." -Anonymous
11. "He lied about loving you and you deserve someone who would never, ever do that." -Anonymous
12. "It's ok to be sad, emotional, angry, think about it all the time, etc. it's normal, and part of the process. Laughing and crying are both ok! Heartbreak is an learning opportunity. You learn about yourself, your relationships with other people, your wants in life, and so many other things." -Claire
13. "There are still days I sit in my car in the parking lot, trying to keep it together. There are still days I cry myself to sleep, only to wake up with red eyes and a fake smile. But it gets better everyday, I promise. And here's why: you are a princess. And every princess finds her prince in the end. He will come and he will give you everything you ever imagined and everything you deserve. Wait for him. Don't settle." -Brooke
14. "It's gonna suck because no one likes not being liked, but it'll get better. Don't beat yourself up over it." -Katie
15. "You know it's over when you start loving the memories more than the person you were with." -Myranda
People fall in and out of love and just because he fell out of love with you doesn't mean your any less of a person. It just was not meant to be.
