There's an old adage that advises us to never talk about religion and politics in polite company, yet for some reason, family dinners are when the explosive arguments about those two topics happen. The holidays are the only time of year you see your extended family, so why not, right? Who cares what people think about your opinions on identity if you only see them annually? In reality, the holidays are the most inappropriate time to have these conversations with friends and family, especially when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community.
A lot of the disagreements in regards to identity and sexuality come from opinions backed by religion and politics. "Your sexuality is against my religion," or, "[Political party] is just trying to appeal to the LGBTQ+ to get more votes," are common opinions that lead to arguments. Of course, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but remember: you might unknowingly be arguing about whether or not someone's identity is moral right in front of them.
We should never have to censor ourselves out of fear of offending people, but there is a line that defines when it is appropriate to say things. To really understand why it's such a big deal, you have to consider the situation: You're celebrating a holiday with family, a time when most people are thinking about how thankful they are for the people around them. Instead, you're having a heated discussion about why we should or should not the LGBTQ+ community deserve rights that others have.
"I am thankful for my friends and family, unless they are LGBTQ+, then I don't think they should have rights to these things." Now imagine saying that around a sibling, cousin, niece, nephew, aunt, or uncle that is still in the closet. This further divides two communities that coexist but do not always cooperate.
Let's keep the holiday season about the holidays. You're not going to initiate a new law at your dinner table. Save the debates for a more appropriate time.