An Open Letter To The Younger Version Of Me

An Open Letter To The Younger Version Of Me

Another lesson that you will learn about yourself is the fact that your political views will not change and you will stick with your values.


Now that I am almost 22 years old and approaching my senior year of college, I think it is time for me to do some reflecting and answer the age-old question: what I would tell the younger version of myself?

Well, one thing that comes to mind is never apologizing for who you are. You are going to meet people that may not like you for the dumbest reasons and sometimes it can affect, but the one thing that you will learn is that sticks and stones may break my bones. There are negative people in this world that will try to tear you down, but you will become stronger than you are before. You are going to go to places that you never thought you would end up for the semester, maybe Washington, DC. One thing you will learn from being there is that it is a fast-paced city with so many distractions, but that won't stop you at all. You learn to be quick on your feet and you will become the best version of yourself. You will continue to learn to become stronger than ever when people try to tear you down, and one thing that you should do is look at yourself in the mirror and say "you are a bad ass and you are strong." Sometimes you will struggle with your confidence, but the more you grow up and learn more about yourself then you will become more confidence in anything you set your mind too.

Another lesson that you will learn about yourself is the fact that your political views will not change and you will stick with your values.

You will have friends that are supportive, caring and strong just like you are and that was something that affected you when you were growing up. You will be one of the loudest people in the room even if you are not trying to talk really loud haha. Be more appreciative of your family even if they can be a pain in the butt, but they love you and they will be there to support you no matter what. Don't give yourself a hard time when you get a bad test grade, because in four or five years that test score won't matter as much. Be proud of your culture, because being Indian is awesome and it makes you stand out. Don't be embarrassed of your heritage, because that is something you should be proud of even when little kids make fun of you about your culture. Don't be bothered when people say you're "not Indian enough." Instead use that as fuel to lear more about your culture and correct them about the inaccuracies of that statement. Education is such a strong tool to combat anything, but also that statement is not okay. Please let them know that. Be proud of who you are whenever someone makes fun of you just play "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift and that will be your theme song anywhere you go! You can come off a bit abrasive to some people so just be careful, it's okay, to be honest, but just be careful with how your statements come across because some people are just overly sensitive. You will learn to be a great friend to some of the best people in your life that will be supporting you on the sidelines when you go through good times and bad times. You will be scared when you go off to college and may shed a few tears in this next chapter, but you will realize that you will meet some of the best people ever and that college was on of the best things that ever happened to you, because you will finally get out of Appleton, WI. Even though you may hate being Appleton sometimes because it may seem small sometimes, appreciate where you come from, because it will always be your home no matter what.

My last point that I would tell you is that you will almost survive undergrad and you did a damn good job of it. Continue to be ambitious and be focused on your next goal which is to get into law school, because it has been your dream since you were a kid. Always stay true to yourself and continue to be the best version of yourself!


Sunitha Doraivelu

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6 Things I Didn't Really Need in My Freshman Dorm, And 6 Things I Wish I Brought Instead

I promise you, being Pinterest-worthy just doesn't make sense in a dorm.

As I packed up my dorm room and unpacked it all once I got home, I kinda felt stupid. I moved in with 2 cars full of stuff (yes, I know how extra that sounds and yes, it was indeed that extra) and I didn't end up needing half of it. Now, I'm swimming in stuff I need to get rid of while holding on to the stuff I didn't realize I would need and ended up buying mid-year. No matter how much you think you know everything, first-time dorm residents, please listen.

6 things I DIDN'T need but swore I did

1. All my personal books

I mean, I'm an English major and I love to read, but no one, and I mean no one, A) has free time and B) uses that free time to read in college.

2. Keurig

There's a coffee shop I can use my cafe credits at on my way to class. I never woke up early enough to brew my own coffee, and I never craved it bad enough in the afternoon to feel like I needed to make my own immediately. It was nice to make tea with though.

3. Dishes and Silverware/Excessive Mugs

All you need is 1 mug and a couple of water bottles. I promise you paper plates and plastic silverware are all you need.

4. An overabundance of office supplies

I didn't use all those fancy office supplies in high school, so as much as I love them, I have yet to reach for them in college.

5. T.V.

The T.V. I had was only slightly bigger than my laptop screen and the wifi at my dorm wasn't good enough for streaming. I hardly used it, but I know others used theirs a lot. Just a personal preference!

6. Tons of wall art

I totally believe wall art has the power to make a dorm room feel less institutional, but I wish I had brought more pictures from home to make my room personal. Pinterest dorm rooms just aren't real, and they aren't what you want when you're homesick.

6 things I wish I had bought before school started

1. ID Lanyard

I personally love these ones from Vera Bradley , but honestly, any way you can carry your ID, money, and keys all in one is a life changer.

2. Earplugs/Eye Mask

Dorms are loud even during quiet hours and sometimes your roommate stays up later or gets up earlier than you do. Amazon couldn't ship these to me fast enough.

3. Wireless Headphones/Earbuds

Personally, I'm an earbuds girl, but either one does the trick. It's nice to not have to deal with cords and to be able to connect to any of your devices without an adapter.

4. Laptop Shell/Stickers

Almost everyone ends up ordering stickers to put on their laptop to express themselves to those around them. On a practical level though, you're probably going to have the same laptop as 5+ other students in your lecture and you will probably throw your laptop in a bag and run at some point. A shell and some stickers will provide more protection than you realize. Check out for some great options.

5. Small vacuum

This is especially important if you get a rug. Sweeping is not pleasant, and the vacuums at your dorm are probably older than you are.

6. Pictures from home

Like I said before, wall art isn't going to comfort you when you want to go home. A picture of your dog or best friend sure will though.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Gherna

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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