Open Letter To A Woman In An Unfaithful Abusive Relationship
Start writing a post
Politics and Activism

Open Letter To A Woman In An Unfaithful Abusive Relationship

A letter to a woman dealing with abusive and infidelity.

37
Open Letter To A Woman In An Unfaithful Abusive Relationship
The Fix

Do you let him walk all over you?

Do you let him get away with being unfaithful?

Do you let him hit you?

You are one of many who suffer from domestic abuse. It is okay---I understand.

You’re scared and you don’t know what to do. Well, I’m here to help. You are a strong, beautiful, independent woman. You do not need him. I know it is not an easy thing to go through---I can only imagine. I know you might not have just your relationship to think about, but possibly kids and other family members. If you’re married, you have to worry about lawyers, court, all that. Its easy to just live with it. Accept it. Make excuses and forgive him. However, guess what -- you are better than that.

A man who is unfaithful, whether in a marriage or just a relationship, isn't the right man for you. You deserve someone who treats you like a queen; who sees you and only you. I will admit---some men do change. They see the error of their ways and vow to change. Sometimes they do. However, sometimes they don’t. The repeat offenders are the ones to look out for. Either way, don't let him off easy. Make him realize what he’s done, what he’s lost. Have the self respect to realize when it is a lost cause. Start fresh. Leave.

Now, a man who hits you...

Don’t get me started. Thank God my mother taught me to have a backbone because if a man EVER hit me...he’d NEVER do it again.

Men who use force against their partner, their wife, their girlfriend... are the lowest possible human scum there is. Men are definitely stronger than women, and a man who uses that when he’s mad or doesn't get his way is just awful.

A relationship of any kind is supposed to be built on love, trust, and mutual respect. If anyone does that to you, they do not love you in any way. What trust you have is shattered and there is no respect there whatsoever.

In that case, you need the self respect to realize that you are better than that. Leave.

I know all that is super scary. My worst fear in life is being alone. However, you can do this. You will figure it out. Find a support system (even if it's me...message me on Facebook or something), pray about it, and make a decision that’s best for you and your family.

We, as women, don't need a man to be happy. We don't need to depend on anyone but ourselves.

Be strong. Take that first step. Walk out of that door and out of that abusive relationship.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

113377
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments