An Open Letter to my Boyfriend’s Mother

I can never thank you enough. You’ve accepted me from the first time you met me back when I was just friends with your son. You used to casually ask “what are y’all going to do when she goes off to college?” You knew, long before he and I would admit it, that we were going to become a couple, and you accepted that I wasn’t going anywhere any time soon.

Thank you for being there for him when he has a problem and doesn’t know how to fix it. You are more than just his momma, you were his first best friend. He talks about you like you are the greatest person on earth- and I have to agree. You have taught him how to be a better boyfriend to me through your years of patience with him and teaching him right from wrong. Though I am kind of reluctant to mention it, he’s not perfect. However, he is perfect for me, and I owe that to you.

Thank you for making him do his own laundry and clean up after himself – after all, one day I’m looking to be a wife not a maid. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a lady. We’re still working on this one because that is no easy feat. Thank you for teaching him that his appearance matters (I only get slightly annoyed when we should’ve been out the door 10 minutes ago but he’s still trying to make his hair look just right) because first impressions really do make a difference. Thank you for taking your time with him, for always being a listening ear when he needs advice for our relationships and for always putting in your two-cents when we’re making a decision about something.

Thank you for always including me in family things from Christmases to family dinners and everything in between. Thank you for making sure there’s always enough seats at the table. Thank you for always saying “are you sure your not hungry?” just like my own mother does, and then making sure I’m full. Thank you for treating me like I’m your own daughter. You have never belittled me or made me feel like I wasn’t good enough and for that I will always be grateful.

You have made me a stronger woman through displaying your own strength. This is not something you do intentionally, but rather you show me how strong you are in the little things in every day life. Life didn’t deal you an ideal hand, but rather than sit around and mope about it, you make the best of it. You find joy in little things and make a point of being kind to everyone you meet. You have had hardships since I met you, but your demeanor and your positive attitude have not changed. You have stayed strong and unmoved and that is extremely motivating for me.

I look forward to the day you become my mother-in-law. I can’t wait until he and I get to make you a grandmother. I know you will excel at both of those duties. You have such a kind heart and a sweet spirit, how could you not? I want nothing more than for my kids to have all kind of wonderful memories with their grandmother like I did with mine. You are the kind of mother-in-law every girl dreams of. I am glad that I’m blessed enough to be loved by your son and by you. I wouldn’t want it any other way. I love you!