Dear Ex,
It's been a good amount of time since I finally got the courage to leave you forever. You have hurt me multiple times and in multiple ways. Though I have blocked you from all social media sites, as well as your number from my phone, all of the emotional damage you have left me still remains. However, while everyone may think that my feelings toward you are just hatred, in ways, I would like to thank you. Life without you in it is so much better and I am loving every single minute of it.
As I just said, while I cannot stand the way you treated me, in a certain way I would like to say thank you. I say thank you because through all of the abuse you put me through, I have come out a stronger woman than I have ever been. I refuse to let others walk all over me and treat me like dirt, like I was once stupid enough to let you do me. Not only that, but thanks to you, I now know what I would not like to have in a relationship going further, because you have shown me everything that I don't want to have. Furthermore, I no longer have severe anxiety because I no longer have to worry constantly about you doing things that would hurt me, or because I am stressed over you getting mad at me over the littlest things and saying mean things to me. Following this further, I now have so much more confidence in myself, because I no longer have you telling me I can't do things, and I am so much more vivacious overall. In conclusion, though you put me through hell, I have come out of the gauntlet victorious as a new woman and could not be happier with my life now.
While in ways I thank you, I just hope you know what all your abuse has done to me. Thanks to you, I have severe trust issues with people. When someone is nice to me, I can't help but think sometimes that they are trying to manipulate me, like you would do frequently. You lied to me numerous times, and now whenever someone tells me something, I have to ask myself twice if they are really telling the truth. I have flashbacks of all the pain that I felt both emotionally and physically when you would abuse me, and let me tell you, it is not fun. You would constantly force me to do things I did not want to do for your pleasure only, and for that I have regret and feel worthless for the fact that you completely used me for the wrong things. I gave everything I had to you, but it was never good enough. You constantly would torture me over things I had no control over, and broke up with me numerous times over irrelevant matter. You tried to control my whole life, telling me what to wear and who to hang out with, forcing me to not do things I wanted to do, and invading my privacy, when I was good and you were the one who could not be trusted. You may have said you loved me, but actions speak louder than words, and judging by your actions towards me, I meant nothing to you. Also, thanks to you, I am scared anymore at the thought of dating again, afraid that my new boyfriend will turn out like you. If I had never dated you or had left the relationship sooner, I would not have these terrible feelings that you burdened me with.
As you can see, you have put me through hell and back. While it may have been easier that we had never met, you have made me a stronger woman and I am now better than ever. I have a whole new, better view on life now than I did while I was with you, and for that I am thankful. However, you have left me with severe emotional damage, and I honestly don't see how you can live with yourself the way you have treated me. If I was still the weak and spineless person I was when we were together, all I would want to do is tell you how much I hate you and how bad of a person you are. However, I have matured greatly and grown into a much more confident, happy, and vivacious woman. I wish you the best in your future, but I hope you know that you lost the best thing that could have ever happened to you with your abuse.
Sincerely,
The Girl Who Used to Love You
