To the girl with the broken heart,

I see it in your eyes though you smile and laugh. I see it in the way you listen to music and hear the meaning behind the words. And I see it in the way you talk about the past. You, my friend, are heartbroken.

Welcome to the club that no girl wants to be in. Your heart has been broken. Whether it be the first boy you ever loved, the loss of an old friendship, or the wear and tear hearts often go through, you have been heart broken. I just want to say, first and foremost, that I am sorry. I think it is very hard, even as, for once, an outsider looking in, to find the words to say that can make you feel better. Every type of love is unique. It’s funny why we fall in love with someone, but once that love is over, a part of us is missing. I know you stay up late wondering where it went wrong or what you could’ve changed, but the only answer I can give you, that I know to be true, is that you couldn’t have done anything differently.

It’s funny how you grow and change with someone in a relationship, whether it is platonic or not. When you give a part of your life, for however long, to someone, you change and grow as a person, and when that relationship is over, you feel lost. Sometimes, I still feel that way when I think about my past long term relationship. Despite the emptiness, though, you have a choice. I believe you can choose to continue to grow from it or not. After a relationship is over and the hurt feelings go away (which can take quite some time), you have the right to analyze it and see just how broken it was. Take that time to realize all that you deserve. Relationships aren’t about one person giving 100%, but two people equally giving and taking 50%.

I know it seems like you are all alone, but I hope you know you aren’t. You have a world full of girls, whose heartache for you and with you. You are so loved, more than you know, and that is one thing you should always remember. You deserve too much to ever feel less than that, and one person should not be allowed to take that from you. Your future is out there, and it is closer than it seems.

From this moment forward, it should be your last day of regret because it is not your loss anymore, it is theirs. Listen to your sad song playlist one last time (I know you have one so don’t deny it) and move on. And your Tinder? Love it, use it, but don’t take it seriously. When it becomes too much, delete it. The love of your life will not be found swiping left or right at 1 a.m. There are days you will sit there and think about the past, I do it too if I’m being honest, but it is now in the past for a reason.

When you are sad, read this article and know it is for you! You are loved, you are beautiful, and you are going to be okay.

Love,

A girl who has had her heart broken before too