It’s going to hurt, and you are going to cry. You will feel abandoned, and who wouldn’t? The person who was your whole world, the only one who was always there for you no matter what, is gone. Everything seems terrible, and there’s no end in sight as to when it’s getting better.
..but that’s where you’re wrong. What now seems like the end of your life is really just the beginning. When you’ve never moved outside of your hometown, the world appears so small. In a few short years, you’ll probably pack up and head somewhere new, meeting tons of new people. Chances are, there is someone out there that’s better suited for you, someone who will love all your favorite things, someone who you won’t fight with as much.
Someone is out there who is willing to give the same level of compassion and commitment that you are, and who would never leave when things get tough. It seems hard to be alone right now, but every breakup gets you closer to where you are meant to be, and who you are supposed to be with.
Although it will probably be one of the toughest things you’ve ever had to do, you need to completely break it off with your ex. If you still call each other every day, kiss like you used to, act like best friends, or even just do them small favors as if you are still dating, then you’ll never give your heart a chance to get over them. Actually treat your breakup like a breakup, and you’ll have a chance of being close with that person sometime in the future when you both are ready.
Although you may not feel awesome right now, there is a day in the near future that you’ll spend looking back at all the time you wasted crying about someone who turned out to be unimportant in your life and you'll wonder why you ever even cared.
Focus on making yourself the person you want to be and spending time with those who care about you, and you’ll be moving on in no time.
