Do you remember all the summer nights we spent? Beach trips, ice cream trips, or all the haunted houses we went to even though you’re scared of them? Can you recall all the movies we watched cuddled up on the couch together? We all remember.
Do you remember telling us about a boy who was just “too good to be true"? How nicely he treated you? We were so excited for you! You had finally found someone who was worth your time. But then we stopped getting your time. You emerged yourself into this new found love. You gradually stopped answering our group chats, our phone calls, and started making excuses not to come out with us. You left us…for him.
The first couple times you two broke up, we were willing to give you another chance. Maybe this time apart you’d realize how manipulative he was being to take up all of your time. Maybe you’d realize how much fun you have with us. We would get you back for a couple days, a week or two maybe, but never for any substantial amount of time. You two would apologize to each other and everything would be right again. Don’t get me wrong. We were happy for you. We never wanted to take away from your happiness, we just had hoped your happiness also involved us, your friends.
When you two broke up for good, we were disappointed for you. We know how big your heart is and how much love you had for him. We know you would have swum to the bottom of the ocean if he had asked you to. We were there to pick up the shattered pieces of your heart. Slowly but surely, you became part of our daily plans again. You came to school events with us, drove to random destinations for the fun of it, and went on Dunkin Donuts coffee runs with us again. You looked happier than ever.
Then you met new boy. And the process of us losing you to him began again. We didn’t make an effort to keep in contact with you this time. In fact, We hardly even think about you now. The thing is, you can only leave so many times before it gets old. We don’t have the time or the energy for people who only want to be our friend when it’s convenient for them. Don’t get us wrong, your happiness means a whole to us, but we no longer strive to make sure you’re being treated properly and your happiness is his focus.
We’re not sure what sort of validation he gives you or why you felt that the love a relationship brings is different than the love from a friendship gives but whatever it is that us girls couldn’t give to you, we hope you have found it in him.
And just in case you were wondering, we’re all doing fantastic. We all still go out for dinner, take trips downtown, and pig out on ice cream and rom-coms. We laugh just as loud and make even more jokes. Our bond is just as strong, and it’s a shame you chose to break it off with us.
Sincerely,
Your Ex Girl Friends
