Dear Nice Guy,
It gets better.
I know it’s hard to see right now, especially if you’re in your late teens/early 20s, but I promise you it gets better. It seems being the nice guy isn’t all what it’s cracked up to be in Hollywood, right?
You close your eyes and imagine yourself as the main character of every Nicholas Sparks book turned movie. Aspiring to be recognized for your true interest in making people happy, especially the ones you love, and you even replay the movies in your head with you starring in it and -- Oh, that’s just me? Never mind.
Where were we? Oh, right!
You see in real life, the girl never seems to fall for the nice guy, but instead for the piece of sh- sorry; For the "not-so-nice-guy."
But you can’t let that get to you. Make your mother proud and stick to what you know best: chivalry and compassion.
It may appear that in these crucial years of social development, girls are seeking out the guys who have little respect for them and their well being. But that is because they are not ready for a commitment. They thrive off the idea of a guy who treats them poorly because they know they will never have to fully commit to them -- and that’s not a girl you want to be with.
Listen to me, Nice Guy!
The girl of your dreams may choose getting drunk and being belligerent at the bars over a meticulously planned out night of a dinner and a movie. But that’s not the reality of life.
ELIMINATE THE STIGMA
There are definitely a few stigmas with being a good guy. Most notably, good guys are either boring or pretending to be nice.
Just because you’re kind, Nice Guy, does not mean you are boring. But it’s up to you to show that to everyone. Just being the nice guy that you are doesn’t win you anything or get you sympathy; you still need to have personality and passion. Show them who you really are. Share your hobbies and interests!As far as pretending goes, that’s up to others to decide. It’s frustrating to think that because you were raised right and truly worry about someone getting home safely (as opposed to trying to scheme your way into their room) that people assume it’s not genuine.
DON’T CONFORM TO ‘DARK SIDE’
It’s easy to want to give up being nice because you continue to finish second to those who aren’t. But you have to stay you, Nice Guy! Honestly, you probably won’t be very good at being an asshole anyways, which will make things even worse for you. So why go there?MOTIVATIONAL THOUGHT AND EFFECTIVE ENDING
It won’t be long before someone picks up on the thoughtfulness you bring into every situation and fall for it.
Sincerely,
A fellow nice guy who has seen the light
