Dear mothers who have lost a child,
First off, let me start by saying, nothing I can say will make things any easier or better for you, but as a mother, my heart bleeds for your loss.
I can't imagine how you must feel every day. I can't touch the heartache that you must feel day in and day out. Being a mother is the most rewarding title and the most satisfying role, but to have that taken away, well it just isn't fair. As a woman, as a mother, I always feel some sort of connection with other women and mothers, because I can relate to some of the feelings your going through.
I know the frazzled feeling at the grocery store, I know the stress at dinner time and the rush of going anywhere. But the feeling of loss is unique to each person and everyone deals with that differently, and yet I still can't touch that feeling or even begin to fathom how you deal with this situation. I pray for those mothers who have lost a child. You ladies have a strength that comes from somewhere primal, it is a fight-or-flight that you are working on and I commend you for your strength.
I wanted to write this letter because of a woman who recently lost her daughter to senseless violence, and her posts on Facebook are heart-wrenching. I feel for her and her family. I have prayed for her many mornings in hopes that she can find some sort of resolution in what has been taken away from her. It is unfair. It is unfair for her, unfair for any parent to lose a child. It is not how the scheme of things are supposed to go.
My hats off to you, you are a strong woman, a mother day in and day out. The memories you have that flood your mind and dreams are yours and those can never be taken away from you. I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry for how you must feel every day and yet you still get up and put on a strong front to live and go on. You do that! Even if it is the hardest thing you can do, you do it. To us outsiders looking in, you do it flawlessly.
I don't understand how and why the world works the way it does, but I do know the love a mother has for her child/children and I also know that that love never waivers no matter if the child is a baby or grown, here or not. A mother's love is never-ending, and I know that feeling. So, even if you feel that every day is a struggle, there are people like me who are commending you and praying for you. There is someone out there who hurts for you and hopes for some sort of peace in your heart.
Take it one day at a time, and know that you are strong even if it seems that you are falling apart, actually, you are some of the strongest people on Earth to survive this type of tragedy.
Your friend,
A fellow woman and mother
