Dear The Girl Who Overthinks Everything,
I know exactly how you feel. Thinking is like your version of working out. You have one bad situation, one date, or get one text message and suddenly you analyze every single piece of it. You analyze what time it was sent, who sent it, what they said, how they acted during the date, etc. It never stops and it isn’t as easy to stop as one might think.
I know how your mind works. Being carefree just isn't your thing and that is completely fine. It's not that you care what everyone thinks about you, its just that you like knowing where you stand with people. You don’t like the grey area that comes with certain people and certain situations because in your mind everything is black and white.
Going with the flow is the worst possible thing someone could ask you to do because you don’t like the flow. The flow means that you will sit there and overthink everything that is happening because it wasn’t part of the plan. It wasn’t something you left your house knowing you were going to do that day and therefore you are completely thrown off. Even some social situations make you cringe because you overanalyze every possible aspect, but you literally cannot help it. You still have a good time and enjoy yourself, you just do a ton of thinking in the process.
With all of this being said just know that it is ok. It is ok to always think everything through, it is ok to overthink even the smallest things, and it is ok to not always go with the flow and be as carefree as your friends. You are who you are for a reason and that is perfectly fine. I know from firsthand experience that most people don’t understand how we are the way we are and they think we exhaust ourselves over the tiny things. While this is true, it is also why they are the ones that come to us for advice and help half the time because they know at the end of the day we will give them a thoughtful answer on what we think they should do.
If you look at the world, we have several different personality types for a reason. If everyone was carefree and didn’t think things through then the world would be chaos. Structure and thoughtfulness are important, so continue to think about every single minute detail because when it comes down to it everyone needs someone who will think about the details and aspects of a situation that they didn’t. Everyone needs that one friend who overthinks everything. How do you think most girls formulate those perfect text messages?
Sincerely,
A Fellow Girl Who Overthinks Everything
