To the girl who believes she will not find better,
Take a breath and look at just how beautiful and wonderful you are.
You will find that individual that does not make you question your self-worth or love.
I know that some of you may be saying, "You do not understand."
"He is what I want and need."
"I won't find someone that understands and accepts my flaws."
"It is going to change."
Sadly, I understand that moment when you develop such strong feelings for an individual that you begin to love them unconditionally. You look at them with such admiration, as you think they hold the world at their fingertips. Not only do you encourage them, but you are the absolute best friend they have. You would do anything to see them happy, and I mean absolutely anything.
All that is okay, of course, if they are treating you the same way. But, once they start to make you question your self-worth or are taking advantage of your kind, genuine personality, stop yourself that first time. Do not make a cycle with a toxic individual that does not see how lucky they are to have you. As much as they could care, or say they care, they obviously do not care enough if they are not finding the time of day to show you how amazing you are.
Do not begin to make excuse after excuse for them because you deserve more. I am sure you have read this quote on Pinterest, as you look up quote after quote, "People make time for who they want to make time for. People text, call, and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they're too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would." I have never read something so true.
You deserve to be a priority, and not just a convenience. Do not reply to that once a month text, or even that 2 AM text. That shouts lonely, or drunk. You deserve the attention you give them. You deserve to be listened to and appreciated. You deserve to be loved by someone who not only sees your body, but your passion and drive in life. You deserve to be taken on dates, and that does not include an invite to watch Netflix (the fact that people still do that). You deserve to be called beautiful. You deserve someone who calls you in the morning on their way to work to talk, not just someone who calls you on a lonely night, when they are not getting attention from others. You deserve someone who loves you for YOU and does not try to change that.
What you do not deserve is to manipulated and strung along. Do not allow people to "have their cake and eat it too". I know you are telling yourself that they care and it will get better. You are also probably thinking they will change, but they will not. Stop trying to convince yourself, because I know that deep down, you see the truth. Walk away from them and DO NOT go back, because you are so much better than that. So, let that person go that only texts you to hang out when they are not seeing someone else. Let that ex go that says you are so special to them, yet only wants to see you at 1 AM in some parking lot. Let that person go that makes the others in their life a priority, but not you. You deserve all of their attention, not only some.
Toxic relationships have the power to destroy your physical and mental health. Do not let that happen and if it has already, change it. You just cannot force someone to care for you; it does not work like that. So, stop giving your all to the ones who make you feel like less of a person. There are so many individuals out there that would do anything to be with you, no matter what you think. Do not forget about your worth.
Find someone that is obsessed with every little thing that you do and hold on to that person.
Sincerely,
A Girl That Wants To See You Happy
