Dear 20-something-year-old,
Right now you're probably doing one of three things, one you are probably in class and scrolling through the internet instead of paying attention, two, you're probably laying on your couch snap-chatting and watching Netflix, or three you're avoiding responsibilities (same). And... I'm here to tell you, that its fine. Not having it completely together is fine.
Over the past few moths I've come to realize that the world and the people around us, for some reason expect us to have it all together. And the truth is, I don't even know what "having my life together" really even looks like. Here are some of the things I've been able to piece together.
First off, no, you don't need to be in a four year relationship on track to getting engaged. Contrary to popular belief. It seems like everyone expects you to be engaged, or in a relationship. The whole idea of "ring before spring" is stupid, so stop paying attention to it. Enjoy your time being single! Yes enjoy dating, but remember that it shouldn't consume your life. Reality is, your heart is going to be broken, probably more than once, but take those moments and use them to grow as a person.
Second, take advantage of every opportunity you get. Travel, do things out of your comfort zone, and try new things. There is nothing worse than thinking, "what if ?". Up until now, there are so many things I wish I had done. Don't wait until you're older to travel, do it now. Do it with the people that mean the most to you. Or travel alone and meet amazing people along the way. Traveling to a different state, and not knowing a single person there was probably one of the most terrifying things I've ever done, but hands down the best experience of my life.
Lastly, be responsible. I'm not saying don't go out and don't have fun, but just be careful. Remember that all of your actions have consequences, whether good or bad. Appreciate your college years, because boy do they go by fast.
So, even if nothing is going the way you had laid it out in your five year plan, it's fine. Breathe. Its going to be OK. Thank that boy that came along the way and made your heart stronger. Go on a hike and take in all the amazing scenery around you. And learn as much as you can about the things around you. We're meant to enjoy this crazy little thing called life, so stop worrying.
Everything is going to fall into place. Gods plan never fails.
Sincerely,
A fellow 20-somthing-year-old.
