Divorced parents are starting to become more common in today's society. Everyone thinks it's normal for parents to get divorced but it can make the child's perception of love differentiate. Just because we are from a divorced family does not mean we are not capable of loving someone, it just may take us awhile to get there or our love could be in a different form and that is acceptable.
1. It is harder for us to trust someone.
Your family for so many years finally just decides to throw this ticking time bomb upon your family and it makes you put on a shell and go into hiding. It is a scary thing because that bomb could go off at any time and your family could be destroyed. Due, to this time bomb it may be harder for us to trust you right away but you have to know it is not your fault, we had just gotten out of battle.
2. Love is messed up for us.
When divorce happens at a young age, we may not understand why our parents do not like each other anymore. They stop loving each other and the fights become more and more, so we start to believe that this is a normal cycle. We have to get out of this mind set to love and by loving you, just know some days will be tough but we are trying.
3. It can make us quiet at times.
We may have done that with our family when everything was fine and all of those memories may be flooding back. Don't worry though boys it is not that this date is horrible it is because we have memories of that place with a family who no longer exists.
4. We won't like holidays.
For years we have been pushed back and forth on different days and different schedules because of holidays. After awhile having this hectic schedule of shuffling between parents gets old and we no longer like holidays. It's okay and you may not understand but I am trying to enjoy the holiday for you.
5. It may be harder to get to know us.
During a divorce, a shell is put over the person to protect them from the pain and hurt from the divorce. After so many years of protecting yourself, it may be hard for you to break the wall down and truly get to know who we are as a person. Please do not give up, keep trying.
Kids from a divorced family are not different, that may just have a different aspect on life than a child from a normal family. If you love us enough to stay and understand, please know that we are trying!
Sincerely,
A kid from a divorced family
