We have all experienced some kind of heartbreak. Whether it may be the loss of a loved one, the loss of a pet, or even a breakup, no matter what the situation be, there is something about a broken heart that makes it difficult to move on and continue your normal everyday life without something you loved. Although I have always been too fearful of handing my heart over to someone else, I seem to have become a go-to person to my friends when they are experiencing sorrow. I find myself giving a lot of advice, and through doing this I have realized that there are specific things people need to remind themselves of when dealing with a broken heart.
1. There is a reason why things didn’t work out.
I know this may sound really cheesy. But it’s true. Maybe the timing was off or something better is waiting just around the corner. No matter what the reason may be, the world did not believe the relationship was everlasting. With this in mind, it is important to not dwell on the past. You cannot change what happened and how everything turned out; all you can do is move forward. The world has a magical way of working itself out, so try as hard as you can to move towards the future and don't doubt what it has in store for you.
2. I know it hurts right now. But things will get better.
Time heals all. After dealing with the separation of someone you loved, it is very easy to feel as though you are in some type of fog. It will be hard to remember a time when you were without that person and life without them just feels… wrong. This pain is normal, but do not let it hold you down. It is important to just live your life and do what makes you happy. As time progresses, you will feel things start shifting back to the way they once were.
3. It’s OK to let go.
Don't hold yourself back for the wellbeing of someone else. You have to do what is best for you. If that means letting go, so be it. Life is too short to dwell on the past and wonder what could have been rather than acting on what can be. It is important to make yourself as happy as you can be, even if that person may not understand you doing so.
4. It’s OK to be alone.
Being alone can seem sad at first but can really be beneficial for you in the long run. Try not to think of it as being farther from someone else, but instead as being closer to yourself. Use this time to work on things you have always wanted to do; spend time with friends, exercise more, read that book you always wanted to read, paint a picture, start a new series on Netflix. Whatever you have always wanted to do and whatever makes you happy, do it. View this time alone as a gain rather than a disadvantage.
5. It’s OK to be who you are.
Use this time to discover yourself. In the midst of discovering yourself, accept the person you are. Put in the effort to figure out what you love and what makes you happy. Try to find the person you are meant to be rather than the person you were while in your relationship. Learn to love yourself and the person you are and once you do, you will find peace of mind.
6. Someone will come along.
As soon as you let go and become the person you are meant to be, you will find contentment. Try not to go looking for someone else. As soon as you are done searching, something great will appear. I know you may want that person back – but that person may not be what is best for you, and that is OK. Like I said earlier, the world has a weird way of working itself out so do not doubt what the universe has in store for you. Just let everything fall into place.
7. I love you.
I know things are tough, and this sadness can be overwhelming. Just know that you will always have me. Even when you think you aren’t strong enough to make it through, I will always be around. I will be here when you need a friend and a shoulder to cry on. Everything will get better, just let go and give it time. Until that time comes, I will be here trying to help you pick up the pieces. After all, that's what friends are for.
