At the age of 21, I have experienced a lot of life in a few short years. I have seen successes the many would never see in their lifetime, but I have also seen plenty of failures that trailed the successes. Much like everyone out there, I have had relationships that seemed to be successful, but then failed soon after. However, after only being in two relationships for my entire life, I have learned something; much of my "love-life," has been centered around waiting.
Waiting is an odd term to use for someone's love-life, but it is a term that is becoming more and more prevalent in today's dating scene. Like I stated earlier, I have only ever been in two serious relationships. This means that we actually went on dates and were an official couple. However, I have other guys come along, but it never seems to work out because they like to play this waiting game.
This waiting game is the one where they say they like you, attempt to do some things that you would if you were in a relationship, but in the end, they never seem to commit to being in a relationship. Instead, you are strung along and throughout this entire time, you are gaining feelings for this person. These feelings become stronger and stronger and you so badly want to call them your boyfriend, but you cannot because they don't want to make it official, or they actually never even tell you that they want to be in a relationship.
With this blurred line, women can become confused, I know I have before. I, for one, know that I hate being strung along, but the feelings I have for someone grow immensely and I have this thought process that maybe one day they will let me be their girlfriend, but they never do. Instead, I am stuck with a slight pain in my heart, possibly being heartbroken, but I am also left feeling as if I have wasted my time.
For the entire time that we are "talking," I have spent countless hours making conversation with you, hanging out with you, and just having feelings for you. When you finally state that you don't want to talk anymore or you never actually make the "relationship" official, you leave me hanging. I have wasted my time on you when I could have been out there. I could have been available to the one who actually wanted to be with me.
Instead, I must wait once more for someone to stroll along who has feelings for me, but I have to be cautious, because what if they are just like you and end up keeping me waiting?
