I can be quite the sentimental (maybe cheesy) person, so naturally I pass the time by looking at quotes on Pinterest. Last week I came across a quote by Albert Einstein on happiness. I looked at it briefly, acknowledged that I agreed with it, and moved on to the next quote. Later that night, Einstein’s quote kept running through my mind. The more I thought about it, I couldn't disagree more with Einstein’s opinion.
"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects."
Happiness is something I have thought a lot about the past few years, and it means a great deal to me. I have spent countless hours researching it and trying to answer the question, “What is the true source of happiness?” The reason I don't agree with this quote is because I firmly believe that our purest and truest happiness comes from the relationships and bonds we share with others.
In my attempt to disprove Einstein, let’s break down this quote.
“…tie it to a goal…”
Yes, it’s extremely important to make goals for yourself. I encourage it! And yes, goals bring you temporary happiness once they are achieved. Key word: temporary. Once you achieve a goal you set for yourself, you're going to be proud and happy of what you've accomplished. That only lasts a short while, and then you move on to the next goal.
“…not to people…”
False. A close bond or relationship you share with someone is unlike anything else. Your friends and family bring out the best in you and shape you into who you are. Even acquaintances or strangers you have brief interactions with make an impact. When you practice vulnerability, you share and form emotions with the people in your life and that makes your relationships stronger. This is what gives you happiness.
“… [not] objects…”
Okay, I agree with this point completely. We all know material items aren't going to bring you true happiness. Sure, you'll get temporary satisfaction, but once that dies down, you're left with nothing. Material items lack the deeper connection or special meaning that people provide.
So, what it comes down to is this: Hold tight to the people in your life because they make the greatest impact on you. Be vulnerable with them. Fully experience the relationships you have. Reflect on encounters you have with strangers. Live a happy and full life!
Sorry, Einstein you got this one all wrong.
