Dear Someone Who Needs to Hear It,
After the past couple of years, I grew and matured more than I thought possible. I learned essential truths about myself and the world around me, and I want share these with everyone. I hope this article resonates with you. But, if not, I write for even a single benefactor. So, here are a few truths that you—and essentially I—need to know:
- It’s all right to be indecisive: I have always been the girl who finds herself lost while it seems as if the whole world knows its purpose. But honestly, indecision is one of the essential parts of life. If you don’t contemplate, reject, fear and accept things around us, you are not living up to your full potential in life. From a young age, you have been forced to make a decision that leads to an action that lead to your “future.” That one decision bears so much weight for the next. And in the only way I can phrase it, that just sucks. When there are so many possibilities, it’s normal to need so time to decide. Don’t worry about it too much; take one decision—just as one day—at a time. And remember, don’t live so far into the future where the present seemingly just becomes the past.
- It’s all right not to be all right: I know this is super cliché, but hear me out. Some of the worst moments in my life have happened in the past couple months. For the longest time, I thought that I had to be strong and not let any emotions slip through the cracks of my hardened walls. Sometimes, I still get in that mode. But in all honesty, you should never feel as if you cannot let go, cry and be sad. It IS normal. Sometimes, it is all you have when the world crashes around you. Some things will never be okay, there is no small issue and people cannot tell you how you feel. Live each moment and take the steps that are best for you.
- Care about others, but don’t forget about yourself: One of the biggest issues in my life is that I try to put others first without caring about myself. I see their needs before my own. I did not realize the consequences that lead to not loving myself as much. If you don’t put yourself first, you can feel lost and lonely. You should never accept being the last option for anyone, especially if you treat everyone as if they are the first priority. You will find relationships that will last forever if you haven’t already. But you need to take care of yourself before you can others.
- Don’t try to be happy, see the joy and love in the world: The biggest flaw most people have is trying too hard to be happy. All we need to do is to see the beauty around us. There are many reasons to cry but finding one reason to smile can make the world of difference to your feelings, your environment and your life. Remember, pain is temporary. Life is short. Memories are created to be forgotten. Laughter slowly fades. But love is forever. When you don’t see the good in the world, I advise to watch the sunset, see a baby’s smile, make a funny face, try to laugh without opening your mouth, do something that you are passionate about, pretend to be a professional hair-flipper, bear hug someone you care about, name one thing that makes this world beautiful and just be you—because being yourself is the best thing you can do to contribute to the love and joy in the world.
- Life is what you make it: No, I’m not quoting an old Hannah Montana song. But that’s the last message I want to leave you with. Life is not a magical journey that will still occur if you stay locked up and closed off to other people and feelings. It’s all right to keep to yourself when you need it, but at the end of the day, nobody will come knocking on that door unless you make the initiative to leave it open. If you want those around you to see who you are, forget the world and be the best version of yourself that you can be. If you seriously want to pursue a career others may reject, do it. If you don’t, that’s up to you. But remember that you live with the choices you make in your life. At the end of your life, I hope you can say that you didn’t regret any decision. Your life is yours to make it what you want it to be. Make it yours. Be You.
Love, Hope and Yours truly,
Someone Who Really Needed to Say It
