Let's get something straight — It is okay not to be okay. Life isn't always easy- most of the time it's very difficult. The world is not always kind, or fair and a lot of the time —it doesn't seem like anything is going to work out correctly. The events in our life, both good and bad, we learn from. Take it one step at a time, and comprehend that sometimes things are not okay.
It is okay that everything is not okay.
It's normal.
Life is going to be like this. (It's like this for everyone.)
I know that your heart hurts. I know nothing seems together. I know that you can't sleep. I know that it's hard. This is okay. (Actually, it's science.)
1. Understand that you are not broken.
You are not weak for feeling this way, or being honest in how you feel. Express yourself- use words. They matter. Expressing yourself is key in not only moving on, but processing. It's normal in society to hide these emotions or feelings, or pretend that you are okay. Break this habit.
2. Know that you are not alone.
I know when it is late at night or you walk around your apartment it is easy to feel like you are; but you aren't. You are surrounded by support and love; look around and take advantage of it. I know it can be overwhelming- like you have never experienced pain like this, but take assurance in the fact that everyone has their own struggles. Keep in mind that some of the most successful and happy people in the world have experienced hardship and considered it hard to continue.
3. Comprehend your own power.
Know your inner strength. I know this is in every "feel good" article ever; but there's a reason for that. It's seriously great advice. You are strong enough to make it through this; and you are strong enough to continue on with your life (In fact- you already have.) You're so much stronger than you give yourself credit for- just believe me. I've seen it.
4. Remember one of my favorite sayings:
(Even though I'm not religious);
"How cool is it that the same god, who created mountains, and oceans, and galaxies, looked at you and thought the world needed one of you too?"
5. Know that I love you.
Not only because you're my best friend and my partner in crime, but because you're human. You're not always okay, and not always doing well. Sometimes your life is a mess, and sometimes you forget that you're not all on your own. But I love you for it. I love you because you're brilliant.
“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant”
-Paulo Coelho