I want to remind you that it's okay to not know what's next. The holidays can be a stressful time for many people, because this is the time for everyone to ask questions about your major, career, love life, etc. While it is great to have people interested in what your plans are and the different aspects of your life, it's not always beneficial. It's okay to not have your major figured out yet. As much as college is a time for learning, it is also a time for self-discovery. Take the time to find a major that will make you happy. My freshman year of college I was in a major that had me hating my life. I did not enjoy my classes, and I had no desire to continue pursuing that degree. I had to take a step back from my comfort zone to figure out what really made me happy. If you need to take the time to reevaluate your major or career goals, take that time. Find what makes you passionate. If you don't love what you are doing now, you probably aren't going to love it in five years. I wish that was something I had understood earlier, instead of trying to force myself to enjoy something I didn't.
When it comes to those love life questions, there is no reason to be ashamed or sad about being single. I know I have been asked numerous times about when I'm going to bring someone special home, but honestly I want to focus on me. I know it may sound selfish, but in my opinion, this is the best time to be selfish. When you are young and in college, you can take a class on a religion you find intriguing. You can stay out until two in the morning. If you want to take a spontaneous road trip, you can. It is a time to discover who you are and what makes you happy. This is why I don't feel bad about not bringing someone special home. I have started to understand the importance of knowing myself first. Once I know and understand my likes, dislikes, and passions, I feel like I would find a relationship to be much more suitable. It's okay to think about your wants and desires first.
With it being the holiday season, I know it's a time of lots of questions. Questions for which you may not have an answer, or your answer may not be what makes someone else happy. I want to remind that it is okay. It is okay to not have a concrete answer. It is okay to want to focus on yourself. It is okay to not know what is next, because this is a time for learning, growing, and understanding the things that inspire you, motivate you, and make you happy.
