I have two jobs and babysit at least once a week, all while being a full-time student in college. How do I manage all of that? I have no clue to be completely honest. There are days that I am so tired and drained that I feel like just slacking at something, whether it be homework or one of my multiple jobs. It is just so easy to not read the chapter due for my History class or just turn on the tv for the kids I am babysitting. I suppose it is a good thing I am single; the thought of having to focus more of my limited time on another person just feels like it may be too much.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the thought of spending my time with someone I really care about. It’s not like I want to be alone, I just do not have the time that they would want for me to give. It would be unfair to them that they are willing to put in all this work when I cannot because all my energy is spent on children or school.
This university is known for finding your future spouse here and getting that engagement ring before the spring semester of your senior year. This puts a lot of pressure on people who are in relationships, but for someone like me it means nothing. I can focus on getting my degree instead of planning a wedding. While you’re saving up for a wedding, I am saving up to pay off my student loans. I am finding myself and figuring out where I want to go after college. Y’all have to accommodate to each other.
I am not saying these as horrible things because I have a lot of friends who are engaged or married, but I am just saying it is not for me. I am immensely happy for my friends that they have found someone while in their 20s that they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
As for me, I am still finding myself, and that’s okay. I am not ready for all that in my life right now unlike some of my fellow classmates.
Having a significant other while I am in my early 20s is not something that needs to happen; I want to be with the person I want to marry for a while before we actually get married. I do not want to be dating someone for a year or two and then decide to get married, no not for me. Kudos to people who do, but I take a little longer than that.
This is not intended to bash on people that are engaged or married right now while in their early 20s. However, that is not the right fit for me. Everyone is different and I am going to let you in on a little secret: It is okay not to agree with everyone. In this society, it is like everyone feels they have to agree with everyone. No! We are different people, we have different opinions, we do not have to agree with what people think or do. So please, do us all a favor and stop getting offended by everything. Sorry not sorry.
