Recently, I saw an article saying cheating is OK. I'd like to respond to that article.

I personally disagree, cheating is not OK. Physical cheating is bad, but so is emotional cheating. In the article, she made a case for emotional cheating saying that cheating is OK when it's emotional because the other person is hurting just as bad.

Even though that may be true if it's that bad for the other person, then why wouldn't the cheater want to put that person out of their misery? I believe if you're purposely putting yourself in a position where you know you will receive pain, why do that to yourself then? If you know you're going to hurt, then don't complain about it. Own your feelings and find a way to fix it. I believe if you are unwilling to help yourself and or receive help, it's unfair to complain about it.

Also, the cheater shouldn't want to put anyone in that position, especially in the case that he or she "cares" about the other person involved. Also, emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating. Emotional cheating is so much deeper than the touch of skin. You care about this person and when you look at that person your heart feels something and knowing that someone else feels that same way when they look at a person that isn't you, that sucks. It hurts just as bad as, if not worse than physical cheating.

Maybe it's no one's fault that someone fell for another person because I get feeling those instant connections, but if you feel something for that person more deeply than the person you are already with, then why keep that other person around, suffering to deal with the time you need to make a decision on who you want to be with? That is an awful thing to do to somebody. Love the person you're with, and if you love someone else, don't hold onto someone that deserves better than to wait on you.

I can't emphasize enough how bad this hurts everyone. When someone is cheating and doesn't just break it off as soon as they know they are invested and this isn't just some fling (even though that's equally as bad) why not break up with that person. You are WASTING their time. This person could be finding someone who truly loves them and doesn't have to think twice about making a decision whether they want to be with them or not. You are also wasting the cheat-ee's time. This person is obviously invested in you enough to not care about hurting the other person, and yes they don't care about the other person because if they did, they would've stopped and said something. You've led them on long enough to bring them into this scandal, so be with them!

For the person being cheated on, you also need to make it stop. If you're okay with it, and into open relationships then that's awesome, and this isn't a big deal to you. However, for someone who truly believes in monogamy, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't care about you as much as you do for them? I know from experience, it's so difficult to let go of someone you thought you were going to spend years with, but honestly, we are better without them. You will grow from this experience and you will learn, YOU DESERVE BETTER. There is absolutely no excuse to stay with someone who DOES NOT feel the same way you do. We deserve to be with someone who wants us all in 100 percent and would never want to be with someone else, and yeah maybe at one point you thought it was that person, but they've chosen differently, and so should you. Choose yourself.