During the 18 years of my life, I have been the little princess that had to find her prince. Preferably a nice gentleman that would take care of me. For many years, growing up in a Christian community ingrained in my brain to believe that men needed to provide and that they needed to make the first move. So, ever since elementary school, I would flirt with boys until they decided that they wanted me, and made their move.
It was a dream to find the perfect guy, and in chick flicks, all of our dreams were so vividly expressed that finding love seemed like a simple task. That all you had to do was flirt, call back, flirt, and date. It was simple. Yet, I never knew how wrong I was. But it wasn't just hard on women, the men were struggling too.
A couple years ago, there has been this constant saying that nice guys finish last. But in what chick flick has a nice guy been thrown away? A woman usually falls in love with them, and never once has the man had the need to call himself a "nice guy." So, I am here to disprove the saying that "Nice guys finish last."
Nice guys never finish last. To the very least, nice guys don't have to call themselves "nice guys" because their identity doesn't have to become a trope under their tongue. When a guy calls himself "nice," he is personally telling you that he is not nice but needs you to believe that he is in order to find some self pity so that you will date him. It's like when you say your joke was hilarious, so people pull out a couple chuckles, forcibly. But in reality, the joke wasn't the least bit funny.
Nice guys always get friend zoned. Also false. The friend zone is in place for women to feel safe. Sometimes the persistency in men is overwhelming, to the point that some women have the need to lie about being in a relationship so that a guy will stop talking to them. Sometimes a guy may be placed in a zone that was a bit too friendly, but women are allowed to friend-zone a guy.
In society, women have been criticized no matter what they do. Sure we would not only love to find a nice guy to take care of us, but also have a company of guys that will just be our friends. Sometimes it is hard for women to define that line because men have just as much trouble. The struggle is real for a lot of us, and it is hard to be rejected.
And in the end, women are being criticized for rejecting nice guys and going for jerks. Women are being criticized for not enjoying the company of a man. Yet men forget to realize that women have every right to reject someone. But no matter what a woman does, they will forever be criticized for it, as if their actions always depended on the approval of a man's. And a woman's "no" becomes excused as a joke to society.
