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13 Reasons The "Nice Guy" You're Seeing Isn't Very Nice

The new nice guy you're talking to is actually the worst.

Sophia Pirozzi

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Recently I began dating again and this time, unlike other times, I swore to myself that I would only start talking to nice guys. Well, this search can be a little bit more difficult than anticipated. Here are 13 signs that the nice guy you are seeing is in fact not very nice.

Disclaimer: This is about no particular person and is just a collection of red flags I have picked up on while meeting new people.

You Met Him On Tinder.

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We all know what Tinder is for, and it's not for getting to know you.

Tells You Your Friends Are Hot, But Respectfully.

He suspiciously follows some of your friends on Instagram before he's met them, only your female friends though. He's also complimented them in that group photo you showed him just enough to make you uncomfortable or jealous but not enough to give you grounds to be upset with him.

Always Suggests Plans But Never Commits To Them.

You get so excited knowing that one day soon you'll go to that art gallery or park or fancy restaurant in the city. When that day is exactly, nobody knows, especially not him.

Denounces The Toxic Behavior Of Other Men Yet He Doesn't Express Emotion.

You love how much he dislikes the new Hollywood sex scandal and is disgusted by that new rapper who hit his girlfriend. He will never lay a hand on a woman the same way he will never tell you how he's feeling besides "good".

Likes How "Chill" You Are Until You Reveal You Are, In Fact, An Emotional Being.

He thinks it's super cool that you just go with the flow. However if your flow becomes different than his you are clearly high maintenance.

Great In Person, Horrible Over Text.

Whenever you're together conversation is easy and fun. Over text you have the thought, "Does he hate me?".

Is There For You Until You Need Him.

He's expressed to you that's he's always got an ear to listen or a hand to help if you need something. If what you need aren't his nudes though he has nothing to give and no time to spare.

Only Texts You Past 6pm.

He's just horny.

Tells You Explicitly That He Is A Nice Guy.

Overcompensating? Self congratulatory for doing the bare minimum of what a good person should do? Thinks he can do no wrong because a girl told him he's treated her decently once?

You've Only Hung Out At His Apartment.

Not exactly sure why this is a red flag but it is.

He Never Comes To You, You Always Come to Him, But When It's Convenient For You As Well, Of Course.

He hasn't come to your place yet, something about him being in for the night. Of course though you are welcome to join him at his place on his time.

Soft Ghost.

He texts you less and less but at least he's still the first person to watch your Instagram stories.

Never Cuts It Off With You Completely So He Can Gaslight You Later.

When he hits you up in your dms two weeks after fading out of existence you clearly have no right to be upset with him as he never ended it or said anything hurtful because he said nothing at all.

If this list hits home, cut it off.

If this list offends you, do better.

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13 Reasons The "Nice Guy" You're Seeing Isn't Very Nice

The new nice guy you're talking to is actually the worst.

You Met Him On Tinder.

Tells You Your Friends Are Hot, But Respectfully.

Always Suggests Plans But Never Commits To Them.

Denounces The Toxic Behavior Of Other Men Yet He Doesn't Express Emotion.

Likes How "Chill" You Are Until You Reveal You Are, In Fact, An Emotional Being.

Great In Person, Horrible Over Text.

Is There For You Until You Need Him.

Only Texts You Past 6pm.

Tells You Explicitly That He Is A Nice Guy.

You've Only Hung Out At His Apartment.

He Never Comes To You, You Always Come to Him, But When It's Convenient For You As Well, Of Course.

Soft Ghost.

Never Cuts It Off With You Completely So He Can Gaslight You Later.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

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2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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