Recently I began dating again and this time, unlike other times, I swore to myself that I would only start talking to nice guys. Well, this search can be a little bit more difficult than anticipated. Here are 13 signs that the nice guy you are seeing is in fact not very nice.
Disclaimer: This is about no particular person and is just a collection of red flags I have picked up on while meeting new people.
You Met Him On Tinder.
Instagram.com/TinderNightmaresWe all know what Tinder is for, and it's not for getting to know you.
Tells You Your Friends Are Hot, But Respectfully.
He suspiciously follows some of your friends on Instagram before he's met them, only your female friends though. He's also complimented them in that group photo you showed him just enough to make you uncomfortable or jealous but not enough to give you grounds to be upset with him.
Always Suggests Plans But Never Commits To Them.
You get so excited knowing that one day soon you'll go to that art gallery or park or fancy restaurant in the city. When that day is exactly, nobody knows, especially not him.
Denounces The Toxic Behavior Of Other Men Yet He Doesn't Express Emotion.
You love how much he dislikes the new Hollywood sex scandal and is disgusted by that new rapper who hit his girlfriend. He will never lay a hand on a woman the same way he will never tell you how he's feeling besides "good".
Likes How "Chill" You Are Until You Reveal You Are, In Fact, An Emotional Being.
He thinks it's super cool that you just go with the flow. However if your flow becomes different than his you are clearly high maintenance.
Great In Person, Horrible Over Text.
Whenever you're together conversation is easy and fun. Over text you have the thought, "Does he hate me?".
Is There For You Until You Need Him.
He's expressed to you that's he's always got an ear to listen or a hand to help if you need something. If what you need aren't his nudes though he has nothing to give and no time to spare.
Only Texts You Past 6pm.
He's just horny.
Tells You Explicitly That He Is A Nice Guy.
Overcompensating? Self congratulatory for doing the bare minimum of what a good person should do? Thinks he can do no wrong because a girl told him he's treated her decently once?
You've Only Hung Out At His Apartment.
Not exactly sure why this is a red flag but it is.
He Never Comes To You, You Always Come to Him, But When It's Convenient For You As Well, Of Course.
He hasn't come to your place yet, something about him being in for the night. Of course though you are welcome to join him at his place on his time.
Soft Ghost.
He texts you less and less but at least he's still the first person to watch your Instagram stories.
Never Cuts It Off With You Completely So He Can Gaslight You Later.
When he hits you up in your dms two weeks after fading out of existence you clearly have no right to be upset with him as he never ended it or said anything hurtful because he said nothing at all.
If this list hits home, cut it off.
If this list offends you, do better.
