With the new year coming, everyone is so focused on transforming themselves into a new person. Reinventing and re-crafting the person that, up until this point they've spent their whole lives being. I have mega problems with this.

I get that everyone feels the need to improve and has aspects that they wish that they could change, but a new year isn't going to help you change. We spend so much time focusing on the future and making up these large and insane goals that you can barely begin to accomplish. Sure I wish I ate a bit better and I wish that I was more organized and like to nap less, but I'm not and I don't.

But that doesn't mean I need to start this huge, exclude everything diet, or buy new organizational stuff that costs a fortune and will literally remain unopened all year, or never nap and overload on B12 every day. There's nothing wrong with those aspects of who I am. We get so focused on fixing these minutes parts of ourselves and our personalities that it almost becomes an obsession. One that drives people to participate in other, and worse habits in order to compensate for some little quirk that is probably no big deal.

If you really need to clean up an aspect of your personal, then instead of trying to completely throw it out, maybe work on setting smaller goals each week that are manageable for the time and the situation. And if the need for you to become someone different is so dire, then you shouldn't wait until the new year to do so.

Don't use 2017 as an excuse to ruin a good thing. Who you are is because of the things and experiences you've had. Completely rewiring yourself or forcing yourself to conform to aspirations and trends that are unhealthy and unrealistic for you is not going to make you happy.

There's always going to be another 5 lbs to lose, or a boy to chase, or a fad diet to follow. But you know what? There's aways room for desert, boys are dumb, and fad diets don't work and aren't healthy. You're human, life's messy, embrace it, learn to love yourself. Be healthy. Be happy. Nothing is going to go how you planned and nothing, not even a new year's resolution is going to make you a competley different person.