It's that time of year again. People are starting to drop their new years resolutions of going to the gym every day, or eating healthier, but it's also the time when people who kept up with their resolutions are starting to see a change. My resolution wasn’t as much of a resolution as it was a new mindset and mentality, to figure out who is important and let the rest go.
Letting go and moving on is a tricky thing, as it is easier said than done. It's not the letting go of the toxic people out of your life that is hard; it’s the memories and the flashbacks that follow that remind you of these people that is the hardest part. As cliche as it sounds, time heals all wounds. You might not be ready right away to let everything go, but in time you will be, and I promise you, it’s an amazing feeling. Things that used to matter so much and occupy so much time and thought don’t matter anymore, and the negative effects it has on your mood and outlook on life disappear.
There was a time where I completely lost myself because I was unable to let go. I held on so tight to someone that it literally consumed me. I was in an all-encompassing love, and when it ended, not only did it leave me broken completely, but it changed me. All I wanted to do was have fun, go out so I wouldn’t have to deal with my feelings and think about how I no longer have the person who made me happiest by my side. I thought it was better to pass out drunk than pass out from crying myself to sleep. I soon began to shut down feelings all together because that was easier than facing the fact that no matter how much I wanted it, things would never go back to how they were.
This is where the process of moving on started for me, and there were multiple times I thought I was moved on, but then I'd see him, or something would trigger a memory, and everything came rushing back, and I was back at square one. When I lost myself, I changed, and I wouldn’t say my change was a bad thing. Yes, some of it was, but now I learned from what happened, and that is what helped me move on.
It took time to get to this point, and I still am not 100 percent moved on, but I am getting there. But where I am now compared to a year ago just goes to show time heals all wounds. The process of moving on is different for everyone. There are no set steps and timelines, but there is one thing for sure, and that is you will move on eventually because ultimately nothing lasts forever.
