People have a huge impact on us. Whether it be what others say or what others do, other people's actions have an affect on our lives. Although not all of these actions have a positive impact on us, you need to never let anyone dull your sparkle.
In life and most importantly, in relationships, there are two kinds of people. There are those ready for commitment, and those who run from commitment. No two people are alike and when common ground can't be found, sometimes letting go is what is best.
Letting go is probably one of the hardest things in the world. We strive to hold on to things and people that we feel connected to. We try to sever every single memory, every single moment, rewinding all of the experiences we've had with them in our heads.
The fact of the matter is, no matter how good it was or how good you want it to be, if it's not serving you anymore then you have to walk away.
It hurts because you're feelings for them are so much, but if you don't let go, you're only going to get hurt even more.
They don't want the commitment and even though you want so badly for it to work somehow, you're always going to be the one who gets hurt, the one who cares more.
You're stuck in this "sort-of" relationship, where you both want different things.
We can make relationships as simple or as complicated as we want. We can make it simple and be together because of the way we feel about each other or we can walk away.
Middle ground is great sometimes if you're looking for some "friends with benefits" kind of deal. But when you like someone so much and you put time and effort into them, you're far better than just being "friends with benefits" or some middle ground. You deserve far more than just "friends with benefits" and don't think for a second that you don't.
If they want to go do what they want and be with a thousand different people, then let them. You're far better than sitting around, wondering who they're with and waiting for them to call you as their second choice.
Don't be the person that is always going to be there for them when they can't get anyone else. You want the commitment because you are ready to be with them and only them, and if they can't give that to you, then you need to walk away.
Walking away really sucks. You may think you will regret it because you're now cutting all ties with them and you still have all these crazy feelings for them. But the truth is, you can't fight to make it work if they're not fighting for you back.
You deserve the world. Someone who is going to go out of their way every single day to make you happy, to make you feel like you're the only person in the world.
There are so many people out there and someone is going to do that for you. I know you may want this current person to be that for you, but you can't make them be what they're not. You need to wait for the kind of love that you are worthy of. You need to know that although walking away and letting go is hard, you need to have faith that you're doing the right thing for yourself and have faith that God has a plan for you.
I know its hard to do and easier said than done, but if it is hurting you more than benefiting you, then it is better to walk away. If they come back, then they do and you will know that it's meant to be. But you can't sit around everyday wondering if they will. Keep your head high, your faith strong and never let anyone dull your sparkle.
