Going into the holidays, everyone knows it's “cuffing season.” Personally, this has never really been an issue for me: I’ve never had a boyfriend.
Don’t get me wrong, I have definitely had crushes on boys and been interested in maybe starting something, but nothing has ever come of it. Some people might think this is sad or that I’m missing out on something great. I probably am, but I don’t have any desire to be in a relationship. I’m having enough fun getting to know myself.
When I see those cute couple photos on Instagram I think, “oh, how cute, but that’s not me.” My best friend is currently in a long-term relationship and I love both of them but I don’t see myself as one of those people. I’ve also never been pressured by my family or friends to try and start up a relationship.
Of course, I go home on break and am asked the dreaded “so, are you seeing anyone?” but when I respond “no” everyone kind of understands. If you meet me you’d know it’s just not me, it’s not my priority.
It’s also true that nowadays, millennials are getting married later and later in life, which I can see probably happening to me. Like any girl, I still entertain thoughts of what my dream wedding would look like, what I would wear, but when I think of the actual person I’d be walking down the aisle to, I just can’t picture how I’d get there. What person would fulfill me so much that I’d want to spend the rest of my life with them?
This could all be because I’ve never been in a relationship. I don’t want one because I don’t know what I’m missing. All of this could even go out of the window tomorrow if I meet someone, hit it off, and never look back.
Nevertheless, to the girl who everyone feels bad for because you’re perpetually single: I feel you. Have fun being single and do you, I’m right there with you.
