I understand, because I used to be you. You think your worth is found in your relationship status. I’m here to tell you, IT’S A LIE! People act like being single is so bad. I’m sure you’ve had the moment when you say, “No, actually, I’m single.”

This is then followed by a look of instant sorrow like you just told them your dog died. They feel bad for you the moment you speak the words. Well I’m telling you, it is beyond okay to be single. It should even be preferred, until you find the one who knows your worth.

Here’s the truth, you don’t need a man. A man needs you. You will never find in the scriptures where God made Adam for Eve. God did not say it is not good that the woman should be alone, he said the man. Eve was made for Adam, to be a help for him (Genesis 2:18). You don’t need him. You may desire a relationship and you may want one, but you do not need a man.

Your price is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). Proverbs 3:15 says, “She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.” Anything he can dream up will never be enough to even compare to you. Why are you still chasing him? Why are you letting him treat you like a doormat? You are worth so much more. “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come” (Proverbs 31:25). You don’t think you are strong? God says you are clothed in strength. You are strong.

I know the pressures to be in a relationship, to get married, and to start a family. I hear it all the time and I desire it, but I refuse to settle for someone who doesn’t see my worth. The worth I am given through Jesus, not in myself. My identity and my worth is found in Christ. Your identity and your worth is found in Christ.

I want to encourage you to stop! Stop saying it, stop chasing him, stop settling for less. I know you’ve heard it before, “A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her” (Maya Angelou). I’ve heard it a million times before too, but I’ve never started living it out until a couple weeks ago. I want to encourage you to do the same! I promise you, if you do, you won’t regret it. If you don’t think you deserve more, you will always accept less and you will never get what you truly deserve if you hold on to what you were supposed to let go.