Narrative: I Am A "Fixer"

Narrative: I Am A "Fixer"

I want to help you and I expect nothing in return.

We all have experiences that influence us into becoming who we are. So many of us want you to know every little detail about our lives; while others like to keep you at a distance.

I am a fixer. I want you to be okay. I don't care how it makes me feel, I ultimately want the best for you and will do anything for you to achieve that.

I hate seeing pain. I hate watching someone cry; breaking right in front of me. I want to help. I want to heal. However, in the process of healing you I forget about myself. This is dangerous.

I generally forget to think about myself. You're probably thinking "that's impossible." Believe me it isn't.

I want to help. I want to heal. This is why I work so hard.

I work hard for everything I receive just to give it away. Crazy right? But nothing brings me more joy. I am a fixer.

I want you to be okay, to be happy. There is nothing wrong with this in anyway, however, sometimes I need reminded of a few things.

1. I can't fix everyone or everything.

2. Not everyone wants your help.

3. Look after yourself.

The last one is a major one. I justify it by telling myself the following: "If you aren't there, who will be?"

This is the reason I chose my field of study. Biology with a concentration in Pre-Medicine. This is why I am willingly going to school for 8+ years. Why I am volunteering for sleepless nights and long hours of studying. I like to believe I will make a difference. Now, don't take me for one those "I will be known everywhere" types. If throughout my entire career I only achieve helping one person I will be content. If all of my patients hate me because I am good at what I do, so be it. Because if I can help that one little boy or girl realize they can do anything they set their minds to despite their current situations; I have received the greatest reward.

I am not "in it for the money". I do not care about "the hours of my life wasted." I do not need to see the outcomes or be rewarded for them. I just want to help. Whether that means splinting an arm or removing a life threatening tumor. I am in it for the long haul.

So whether you are the fixer, the follower, the leader, or the denier, make sure you are you for the right reasons.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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The Nike Controversy that Makes no Sense

Nike has been facing backlash recently, for reasons I just cannot understand.


Nike recently released a plus sized workout clothing line, equipped with beautiful plus size mannequins to advertise their brand. Instead of many in the fitness community rejoicing in this milestone, Nike is facing criticism because people believe that Nike is portraying unhealthy weight standards to their customers.

These individuals believe that the size that is portrayed by Nike's mannequins is obese, and as a result, is telling others that being a size like that is okay. Yet, the mannequins that are usually portrayed in Nike's stores, rarely represent body types of real people.

As I read these comments, I thought to myself – are these people crazy? Think about the men and women who have spent months, maybe even years, trying to lose enough weight just to fit into Nike's plus sized brand! As well, bigger women deserve clothes to work out in. It should not matter if they are "obese" they are working towards a healthier lifestyle.

The backlash being faced by Nike is the mentality that prevents many from even joining a gym. I can completely understand the fear an individual experiences when entering the gym, surrounded by people who look like fitness gods, and you feel like everybody is judging you. As if you do not belong in a gym.

I will never understand how creating more barriers for individuals will motivate others to exercise. In my own opinion, attractive workout clothes are more than enough to motivate me to get to the gym!

Do not let the mentality of fat-shaming, and others fear of a little jiggle prevent you from flaunting Nike's new style, and creating a healthier lifestyle for you

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