My Not So Secret Obsession

My Not So Secret Obsession

Weddings make me so happy!
Elizabeth Finto
Elizabeth Finto Nov 14, 2016
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As a little girl, I used the beg my mom to buy me the bride Barbie. I wanted to be a corpse bride for Halloween so I could wear a fake wedding dress. I went over to my best friend's house down the street and we would watch Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings. When I went to my grandmother's house, I pulled my mom's wedding dress out and put it on! It almost fit me, but my mom and dad got married in 1991, so the shoulder pads went up to my ears and it had beads and pearls all over it. My favorite parts of a wedding and the planning process are the sparkly, fancy dress, the flowers, the venue, the shoes, and much more! I could go on forever! You better believe my wedding will be planned down to the tee.

When I got bored, I would start writing a fake story in which two characters get married, and I wrote their whole wedding day including every possible detail into the story. People asked me what I wanted to do when I got older, and I used to tell them I wanted to work at Kleinfeld in New York City and be a bridal consultant. Then I wanted to become a wedding planner. In my junior year of high school, we all had to find an unpaid internship for a week. I chose to work at a place near my house called Tiffany's Bridal and the Groom's Corner. I got to work with over one hundred wedding dresses everyday. Let's just say I was in pure heaven! I would tell the people that I was working with that this was my dream to be in the presence of brides and wedding dresses.

When I was a sophomore in high school, my dad married my stepmom. I got to try on bridesmaid dresses and look through all of the beautiful wedding dresses. In the spring of my sophomore year, a very close family friend got married in Texas. Then, in my junior year of high school, a family member of mine got married. In my freshman year of college, two of my very close family friends got married in October! This upcoming Saturday, November 19th, my cousin is getting married! Something special about her wedding is that she is getting married in the same church my grandma and grandpa got married in sixty-five years ago.

Yes, I have my dream wedding planned out on Pinterest. I couldn't have this obsession with weddings and not make up my own! Someday I will find the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I will be able to make (some of) the ideas come to life! What girl doesn't dream of her future wedding?

Cover Image Credit: Springfield Hotel
Elizabeth Finto
Elizabeth Finto Nov 14, 2016
At University Of Mary Washington

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10 Things I Learned When My Best Friend Got Pregnant In High School

In this world where you can be anything: be a friend (and be a good one).

Libby Redd
Libby Redd Nov 16, 2018
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Life: full of amazing, unforeseen circumstances. How you roll with the punches only reveals your strength.
True friends are like diamonds: bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style." -Nicole Richie

I remember when I first heard the big news. I didn't want to believe it. My heart dropped. I was worried for you. What would happen? How would you get through this? Nothing we knew would ever be the same. Our world was about to change forever. I recalled the verse Isaiah 41:10, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you." I knew God was with you and would always be. I knew God needed me to be here for you, no matter what.

Turns out, you had this all in the bag. You handled everything with grace and dignity. You were strong even on your hardest days. You were overwhelmed with faith and you inspired me with your perseverance through the hardest times. I could not be more proud of who you became because of the cards you were dealt.

To Meaghan: I love you. I'm always here, no matter where. Hudson is so lucky to have you.

Here's what I learned from you and your sweet baby boy:

1. Contrary to popular belief, it is NOT the end of the world

Start making plans for the future. Pick out clothes, decorations, and toys. Help with all the madness and preparation. She would do the same for you. Plus, 9 p.m. runs to Toys-R-Us just to buy the baby some socks (because you do not know the gender yet) is always a good idea. You have to focus on the big picture. Life doesn't stop even when you want to.

2. No matter how much you want to freak out, remain calm

Getting unexpected news is never easy to hear. If needed, cry. Cry until you cannot anymore. Then, get up and be strong, she needs you. Be flexible (You want to come over to hang out? Right now? No, I'm not in the middle of ten thousand things, come on over). Be available (yes, even for her 3 a.m. insomnia calls just to see "what's up?") "Meaghan, why are you even awake right now?"

3. Radiate positivity. Always. 

This is an emotional time. The LAST thing she needs is someone bringing her down. "No, honey, you're glowing!" "You do not look fat in that bikini!!" "You are rocking that baby bump!" "Oh, that's your the third day in a row you're eating a Sonic burger for lunch? You go girl!"

4. Be ready for all the times: happy, confusing, stressful, sad, (but mostly) exciting

Mixed emotions are so hard, but look for the silver lining. With your support, she will be strong.

"Who knew picking out the brand of diapers to buy was so stressful?"

5. This world is a scary place. You never want to be all alone, so don't be. 

Like the song says, we, really do, all need someone to lean on. Just being there for someone goes a long way. "Meaghan what the heck are you doing in MY bed? How long have you been here?"

6. Lean on God. His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. 

When you don't know where to go, or who to turn to, pray! Pray for the burdens you feel. Pray for the future. Pray for patience. Pray for the ability to not grow weary. Pray for a heart of compassion. Pray. Pray. Pray.

7. Something we never knew we needed. 

Some of the best things in life are things we never knew we needed. Who knows where we would be without this sweet face?

"Hudson say Lib. Libby. L-- Come ON!" "CAT!" "Okay, that works too."

8. "Mother knows best"...is accurate, whether you believe it or not

Turns out, seventeen-year-olds don't know how to plan baby showers. Our moms have been there, done that. They want to be involved just as much as we do, so let them! Listen to their guidance. After all, they're professionals.

9. There will *almost always* be a "better way" of doing something...but, be a cheerleader, not a critic 

This is something many people struggle with in general, but it is not your DNA, it is not your place to be a critic. Let her raise her own baby. You are there to be a friend, not a mentor. ****Unless she's about to name the baby something absolutely terrible -- for the love of that baby, don't let her name that kid something everyone hates.

10.  At the end of the day, it's not what you have or what you know; rather, it is all about who you love and those who love you

Life has adapted, but for the better. We grew up, learned, and became stronger. All the while, we stayed friends every step of the way. We still have the same fun and most definitely, the same laughs.

Libby Redd
Libby Redd Nov 16, 2018
At University of Kentucky

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15 Things You Know To Be True If You're Type A Personality

I'm not Intentionally overthinking everything, it just kinda happens.

Ally Miller
Ally Miller Nov 21, 2018
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The world needs all types of people but one of the most talked about personality groups are those considered to be Type A. Type A personalities can be either your greatest asset or your worst nightmare. Here are 15 things you know to be true if you identify with having a type A personality.

1. Planning is a stress reliever. 

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Being able to break down your day in a planner can take a stress level of ten quickly down to a two.

2. Homework is often times done days in advance. 

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I'm not even sure the word procrastination is in my vocabulary.

3. A last minute change of plans is so stressful. 

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If people would PROPERLY PLAN this wouldn't be an issue. Granted, maybe I could use some compromise.

4. You've heard the word "bossy" once or twice. 

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You think you're insulting me. You're not. It's actually a compliment.

5. You are ALWAYS the group leader. 

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Hey, someone's got to do it. We may complain about the responsibility but all who know us know there's nothing we love more.

6. And....when other people lead you can't help but internally stress. 

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Oh yeah sure, I would love for someone else to take on the work....said no Type A person EVER. My grade hangs in the balance and I am not great at relinquishing control.

7. You are also known to talk quite a bit. 

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I know it, you know it. There are just so many thoughts going through my head and I want to get them all out but sometimes we all need a little reminder.

8. You have to make yourself stop talking and listen. 

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I want to listen, I really do. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves to stop talking long enough to listen to what every one else has to say.

9. People subconsciously place all of the work on you.  

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It's a very unfortunate balance between wanting control but not being able to manage the extreme amount of work that everyone else has placed on you.

10. You have a hard time saying "no." 

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Every experience sounds like a good one. The actual act of turning opportunities down is not the easiest thing to do.

11. You tend to get less than an ideal amount of sleep. 

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Eh, I'll sleep when I'm dead. There is too much to do and really not enough time in the day.

12. You struggle with the need to be perfect. 

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This is a struggle that never ends. Perfection may be impossible but leave it to the type A personalities to try.

13. You read into pretty much every single comment. 

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It's not intentional, our brains just move way too fast to keep from unintentionally reading into, well everything.

14. You put a ton of effort into good relationships. 

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This is one of the many blessings of a type A personality. There are few things more valuable than good relationships and we will put all of the energy we can into even the smallest seemingly mundane friendships

15. You may be a little self-conscious about your Type A traits. 

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Some of these traits are better than others and somedays a true type A personality can be a little embarrassed about the quirks.

Having a type A personality can be a little on the stressful side but it is so important to remind yourself that the world really does need all types of people. There is nothing wrong with being type A as long as you prioritize self-care (which can be harder than you think).

Here's to all the type A personalities out there, we need you.

Ally Miller
Ally Miller Nov 21, 2018
At University of North Carolina

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