My Not So Secret Obsession

My Not So Secret Obsession

Weddings make me so happy!

As a little girl, I used the beg my mom to buy me the bride Barbie. I wanted to be a corpse bride for Halloween so I could wear a fake wedding dress. I went over to my best friend's house down the street and we would watch Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings. When I went to my grandmother's house, I pulled my mom's wedding dress out and put it on! It almost fit me, but my mom and dad got married in 1991, so the shoulder pads went up to my ears and it had beads and pearls all over it. My favorite parts of a wedding and the planning process are the sparkly, fancy dress, the flowers, the venue, the shoes, and much more! I could go on forever! You better believe my wedding will be planned down to the tee.

When I got bored, I would start writing a fake story in which two characters get married, and I wrote their whole wedding day including every possible detail into the story. People asked me what I wanted to do when I got older, and I used to tell them I wanted to work at Kleinfeld in New York City and be a bridal consultant. Then I wanted to become a wedding planner. In my junior year of high school, we all had to find an unpaid internship for a week. I chose to work at a place near my house called Tiffany's Bridal and the Groom's Corner. I got to work with over one hundred wedding dresses everyday. Let's just say I was in pure heaven! I would tell the people that I was working with that this was my dream to be in the presence of brides and wedding dresses.

When I was a sophomore in high school, my dad married my stepmom. I got to try on bridesmaid dresses and look through all of the beautiful wedding dresses. In the spring of my sophomore year, a very close family friend got married in Texas. Then, in my junior year of high school, a family member of mine got married. In my freshman year of college, two of my very close family friends got married in October! This upcoming Saturday, November 19th, my cousin is getting married! Something special about her wedding is that she is getting married in the same church my grandma and grandpa got married in sixty-five years ago.

Yes, I have my dream wedding planned out on Pinterest. I couldn't have this obsession with weddings and not make up my own! Someday I will find the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I will be able to make (some of) the ideas come to life! What girl doesn't dream of her future wedding?

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Danger Of Future Tripping

Making small goals can help you achieve a better tomorrow.


The future is mysterious. Because of this elusive, unknown timeline we all face, why shouldn't we spend our time daydreaming of our distant goals and desires? These dreams have a tendency to taunt us in our seemingly boring present life. But it feels so wonderful to visualize ourselves in a better, distant state of absolute satisfaction and fulfillment in all aspects of our future. This visual that we create of a happier, healthier, and stronger self, is what we consider to be our ending goal; our definition of success.

So what is future tripping, and why is it detrimental to our future success and present satisfaction with our lives? According to future tripping is a "human condition of peering into the imagined future and anticipating the outcome," but what's wrong with visualizing our "perfect" future career, future lifestyle, and future home, with a wood burning stove and all? Well, before I completely bash visualizing a "better" you, I have to give it credit because it gives you a motivator. The issue is that people, including myself, get so caught up in what we want rather than what we need to do to achieve this version of ourselves and our life.

If we were to only focus on our ending goal, we are creating an existence of madness, and impatience. We need to begin making smaller goals and smaller effort in an effort to become better. A peer of mine said something the other day that struck home. In my own words, he said, "You can only be better than the person you were yesterday." What a simple, achievable goal to work on daily. It sets the bar low, making it easier to feel satisfied as you lie in bed at night and think, "What did I do today that made me a better me than yesterday?" In making these small, easily achievable goals daily, you are working towards this future "self" you wish to become. In other words, you must walk before you can run.

The sooner we begin rewiring our consciousness to confront our current life, self, and mini goals, the more attainable and realistic our far-off goals will become. Each day must be lived, that is a fact. If we are always thinking about tomorrow, or a year from now, or decades from now, we are wasting the precious opportunities of living, exploring, and growing that today offers. If we continue to romanticize and future trip, our levels of current satisfaction will begin to plateau.

I'd like to add and reiterate, that it is good to plan, and that it is good to have an overarching goal to work towards. College presents a perfect environment for structuring your goals (career/life path), and giving you daily errands (homework) that slowly, but surely, take you closer to your desired outcome.

So I hope that in reading this, you will start to catch yourself from future tripping in those moments of current disappointment and make a goal to make tomorrow better.

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