From high school to college and beyond, everyone has that “person”. You know when Meredith Grey turns to Cristina Yang and says, “You’re my person”? Well, it’s that person. It’s the person you constantly have in the back of your mind when something good happens and you want to tell them about it. It’s the person you first think of when something goes wrong and you need a shoulder to cry on. For some people, it’s their best friend from childhood. For others, it’s their high school sweetheart. For me, it’s my mom.
Everyone has that day where nothing extraordinary happens. On that day, when I don’t have anything to say but “hello”, the first person I think of is my mom. Whether we’re two hours apart when I’m at college or a few steps away when I’m home, I turn to my mom for endless conversation and laughter. She is the one person who accepts me as I am and doesn’t put pressure on me to do more than I am capable of.
The relationship I have with my mom is equivalent to at least 10 friendships. Your friends are the people you grow up with and then grow apart from. You grow close to new friends continuously. However, with so much transitioning throughout life, your friends, even your best friend, isn’t always your “person”. When the people I expect to be there for me are not, my mom is. During such a busy and evolving time in our lives, its difficult to be on the same page as every one else. Our high school friends are now miles away with new friends, hobbies, and lifestyles. People we graduated with have babies, and boyfriends that are proposing to them. It’s not like it used to be and it’ll probably never be that way again. We are no longer students in the same four walls with the same gossip and adventures. We each live completely individual lives separate from one another’s. Over break, we’ll venture back home and share what we’ve learned and experienced. And after a few weeks, we will separate again. The college years are some of the most selfish years of our lives. We make decisions based on what we want even if it hurts those around us. That’s why my “person” is someone who has had their time to be selfish and is now the most selfless person I know.
For these next few years of my life, I can trust and love my friends, but I cannot expect them to put me first in their lives. Instead, I have my mom. When friends have let me down, I can turn to the person who has experienced all the ups and downs of life and still has an unwavering positive outlook to pass down to me. I can place all my trust in the person who God trusted to raise me into the person I am today. Throughout life, I will turn to this woman for advice on every thing imaginable because she is my “person”.
