First off, shout out to Jennifer Baron for her article that inspired me to write this piece.
Too often people raise issues with couples spending so much time with each other, and how they always do everything together. But, the more you get to know some one the better of a relationship you will have. That begs to ask the question, how can you love someone before you truly know them?
The answer, you can't. You have to be best friends before you can ever truly know each other in a more intimate way. A dating relationship should be two best friends coming together in an even greater companionship than before. The friendship is key, so look at what Urban Dictionary has to say about a "best friend",
"Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases, they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt."
Doesn't that sound a lot like what a significant other should be? The two go hand in hand. It should not only be acceptable or OK, it should be normal. Couples should be able to consider each other as best friends because each majorly understand the other and are there for them no matter the circumstance. Me and my girlfriend have been dating a year and a half and I can say that each and every day we walk together as boyfriend and girlfriend; but also as best friend and best friend.
Why is my girlfriend my best friend, well here is why......
1. She is always there for me.
24/7/365. No matter what is going on she is willing stop and listen to any, and everything in my life. It might be three in the morning when I need her because I am not feeling well and she will be there to comfort me.
2. She makes me feel like the happiest person alive!
Whether it's telling a funny joke or saying one word in funny accent by, the end of the day my cheeks hurt from how much I am smiling. She creates an overflow of joy in my heart on a regular basis.
3. She annoys me, but not too much.
But come on, what is a best friend for if you can't annoy each other once and awhile?
4. She believes in me and supports me in everything.
Whether it's playing a sport, trying a new activity or just trying to conquer my fear of heights she knows how to help. She has the answer to each and every situation because she knows how I work at a heart level.
5. She knows everything about me, and somehow still loves me.
The good, the bad and the ugly, all of it. There are no hidden areas, it's all out in the open and despite my past and my mistakes she loves me exactly the way I am. That takes a special kind of person to love so pure and so honestly.
So who says my girlfriend can't be my best friend? I'll tell you, it might seem crazy to realize that your significant other is your best friend, but it is also the best feeling ever. To be in love with your best friend is something you hear in the movies but never expect. But it is real and when you find it and grab it, hold on for one of the best times of your life! The blessings continue to amaze me and I would never imagine our relationship any other way. Best friends in love, that's how it is meant to be!
Here is Jennifer's article: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/my-boyfriend-is-m...
