Being the introvert that I am, the quote "Your elevation may require your isolation" has stuck out to me and helped me in times of loneliness. Although I have only recently discovered this quote, its meaning is simple yet strong. Whenever I feel alone, I remind myself of this quote, because no matter how alone I may feel, in actuality, all my successes have come from doing things on my own.
The fear of being alone is so strong in humans that we settle for mediocre relationships instead of learning to happily be on our own. We would rather have a hundred pennies than four quarters because the more people we have, the better we are doing. Or so we think. We think that if we are surrounded by plenty of people, their success is going to melt onto us. Only you can bring success to your life. Only you can bring light and happiness into your life.
For many years, the fear of being alone overwhelmed me so greatly I settled for many toxic relationships. I would have rather had a toxic friend than no friends. Only up until half a year ago did I realize how foolish this was. I didn't need anyone, and certainly not anyone who only brought me down. When I finally let go of those toxic relationships, my shoulders became lighter and my header became clearer. And with the drop of those toxic relationships came an increase in personal successes. I was doing things on my own, for myself. No one's opinions were lingering in the back of my head convincing me to do certain things. I was thriving off of my thoughts and ideas only.
I have learned to thrive with no help from anyone else. My elevation came from my isolation.
Whenever I find myself feeling alone and lacking motivation, I remind myself of how great it feels to be successful. I remind myself that I'd rather only have myself than a group of people who only half want what's best for me. At the end of the day, you only truly have yourself so make sure you're happy with who you are and what you can do. This quote may not apply to all individuals, but in my own journey, I do best when I'm on my own. It took a few burned bridges, or relationships in my case, to get to where I am now. I'm thankful for all my failures and toxic relationships because they have led me to where I am today. This quote has taught me that it's okay to be selfish- to an extent. That your personal happiness and health will always come before others. Helping others and giving back is one of the greatest things you can do, but you can't give back when your personal self is lacking greatness. Learning to love yourself before you love anyone or anything is crucial to personal growth. When you love yourself, you become unstoppable.
