Actually, College Doesn't Ruin Relationships

Actually, College Doesn't Ruin Relationships

My relationship has lasted through college, and so can yours.

Being in a long-term relationship can be difficult, however, in college it's different. Dating in college is easy, for many reasons. You see that person all the time and you know what they are doing for most of the day. In college, you don't have that, especially if your significant other doesn't go to college with you.

I have been in two long-term relationships in my life, both of which were my only real relationships (real as in they weren't an elementary school childish thing). I am currently still in a relationship with a guy who I started seeing my sophomore year of high-school. Being in a relationship for as long as I have, there are times where I question what I am doing. I question whether or not I am really in love with this person or whether I am just comfortable. Every long-term relationship has these moments, and in my first long-term relationship that is what broke us up (along with other reasons).

However, in my current relationship, my boyfriend always seems to remind me why I am still with him.

Starting college I was afraid the distance (not seeing each other every day) would be too hard to handle, and it wasn't easy at first. We would talk on the phone all the time and text non-stop, but that didn't last long because of how busy we eventually got. Being apart from him all the time has given me the time and space to figure out who I am. It has given me an opportunity to grow as a person, without the growing pains of my relationship that would come with it. I have been able to work on myself without it affecting my partner in a way that would tear us apart.

Now I realize, going to college has, not only benefited me and my career, but has benefited my relationship as well. I can be on campus all week, get what I need to get done and know that when I come home for the weekend he will be there.

This time apart has given him the freedom to discover himself as well. He didn't go to a traditional four-year college, so he has had some time to live in the real world and figure out what he wants to do for the rest of his life. I am so proud of the man he is becoming and the motivation he has to build a career he is passionate about.

I'm not saying our relationship has always been easy, but we have figured out how to make it work. For us, communication has been the most important thing to work on. Along with communication, trust is also important given the distance between us (even though we are only about 45 minutes away). I know he is working and having fun with his buddies and I make sure that I am not making him feel guilty for doing so. We are still young and I don't want to control every part of his life like some girls tend to do.

With all that being said, I love my boyfriend so much. He has been so supportive and so caring throughout all the years we have been together (we started dating 10/19/13). He has been patient with me, especially when it came to teaching me about his interests (which includes a lot of motocross and dirt bikes). He has been there through thick and thin, no matter how crazy life has gotten.

I am so proud to be his girlfriend. We have made so many memories, and have had so much fun together. I hope I make him as happy as he makes me, because he has made me the happiest girl in the world.

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You Shouldn't Have To Fix Anyone When It Comes To True Love

Look for the signs, trust your gut, and never settle

"I can change him!" Says every girl that has seen a red flag with their boyfriend. We all think we can "fix" them, but truthfully, you should never have to change or fix anyone, no matter what the case may be.

Is this just a red flag or can this ruin our relationship forever? Can we work through it together or are we just going to walk away when things get a tad difficult?

1. He treats other people badly, including his family.

2. You've heard of past relationships being abusive. Watch the signs.

3. They're too immature to find ambition for anything.

4. Your futures don't line up together.

5. How he treats his mom is how he is going to treat you. How she acts or talks to you, is how it's going to be for the rest of your life. Are you ready for that, sis?

6. He doesn't care about your day.

7. Doesn't ask to make plans first or contact you first.

8. Are they being truthful or are they making promises they can't keep?

9. Love or lust?

10. If they are making disrespectful comments as "jokes," are they really jokes?

11. He doesn't want you around his friends or even introduces you.

12. His history of relationships is either nonexistent or they're all short-term.

13. If sex is all that he's there for, leave him in the bedroom.

14. If you can't have serious and deep conversations about life and the future, that's probably a major issue.

15. Jealous of your friends.

16. Has controlling behaviors-has to look at your phone or know where you're at all times.

17. He doesn't get along with your friends or family.

18. Isn't supportive of your ambitions or future.

19. His actions don't prove his words.

20. Talks badly about his ex. (Remember he once "loved" her, too).

21. He's rude to strangers; waiters: doesn't tip them, say please and thank you

22. Obsessed with his appearance.

23. Arrives late to everything.

24. Never compliments you.

25. Only cares about what they want to do, never do what you want.

26. Is constantly angry or upset with you.

27. Blames you for things you had no part in.

28. Too needy

29. Too much TV/video games

30. Doesn't spend enough time with you.

All of this to say, trust yourself and your gut feelings. If something feels off or wrong about someone, it probably is. Also, these aren't all deal breakers or red flags for everyone. Everyone's relationship is different and just because there is something or multiple things on the list going on in your relationship, doesn't mean you can't work through your issues and they may not be as major as you think.

Learn your self worth and respect yourself enough to know what you deserve from someone and you will never have to question, is this a red flag I'm seeing? Or is this something too major I need to break it off?

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8 Chipotle Meals To Bring Your Girlfriend, Even If She's As Extra As The Guac

You may not be able to make her happy, but Chipotle can.

Has your girlfriend ever craved Chipotle?

Has she begged you to take her or go with her and you just didn't have the time? Do you want to know how to make it up to her?

Here are 8 Chipotle meals that you could bring her to make up for anything you've ever done wrong!

1. Burrito

A Flour tortilla wrapped around your choice of meat, rice, beans, veggies, salsa, sour cream and or cheese. Also, don't forget the guac.

2. Burrito bowl

Your choice of meat, rice, beans, veggies, salsa, sour cream and or cheese. Minus the tortilla because, ya know, calories.

3. Crispy corn tacos

Triple tacos with her fav meat, salsa, or sour cream. You can also add guac if you're feelin' extra. Great meal for when she needs a lil' crunch in her life.

4. Soft flour tacos

Triple soft tortillas cradling her choices of meat and condiments. Best meal for when she doesn't want to deal with cleaning up the aftermath of a crunchy taco.

5. Salad

A soft bed of Romain lettuce with her favorite meat or sofritas. Topped with beans, salsa, sour cream, and cheese. Good choice for when she wants to eat healthily but needs her Chipotle fix.

6. Chips and queso

For when you want to show her just how cheesy you really are.

7. Chips and guac

For when you want to show her just how much you care about her because she knows guac costs extra.

8. Chips and salsa

For when she's feelin'spicy!

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