With summer flings slowly coming to an end and cuffing season on the rise, some of us who are single, or newly single, find ourselves missing old flames.

If you find yourself in this position, remember to remind yourselves why the relationship had ended in the first place. Instead of trying to reigniting the old flame, try to learn from it.

Though this may be easier said than done, there are a lot of ways to encourage and motivate yourselves to move on with your lives. Trust me when I say that there are bigger and better things out there for you to move on to.

In this day and age, social media platforms such as Facebook and Instagram are contaminated with photos of your friends and their significant others. For us single folk, it can be hard to view these pictures and to not immediately feel plagued with loneliness.

Instead of moping around, spending your valuable time looking at these photos, you could try to spend time with friends or find a new hobby. Sometimes, especially in my personal experience, keeping yourself busy is a good way to stop yourself from feeling alone.

Additionally, if you find yourself still not fully over a past ex partner, just keep in mind that the relationship ended for a reason. Whatever that reason might be, taking time to heal after a breakup is essential to your own health. Before you even think about going back to an ex, make sure that you are in a good place. Your overall health is the most important thing.

If you still find yourself convinced that going back to your ex is what is best for you, think back to how and why your relationship ended up failing. Stop trying to rationalize your partner's pesky pet peeves or undesired baggage as an excuse to go back to them.

Be honest with yourself in order to avoid an unhappy reunion and the dreaded feeling of being trapped with a person now that you have attempted mending a broken relationship.

Some might argue that people do change, but change takes time and in my experiences, exes certainly do not change overnight even if they end up changing their ways at all. Odds are, the problems that you had in your initial relationship will quickly resurface.

Along with this idea, breakups do change people and you might not be the same person you were when you were with your ex either. The time that you have now spent being single and meeting new people probably taught you a lot about yourself that you did not know during your previous relationship. Odds are you and your ex would be even less compatible than you were before.

Personally, I have learned that it's just best to move on and bite the bullet. Keep yourself busy and meet new people. Forget about your ex and don't let the past haunt you. Just because other people are getting into relationships does not mean that you have to as well.

There will be plenty of opportunities for you out there and good things take time. So, figure out what you want and who you are. Enjoy your life as it is before jumping back into the dating game if need be.