"What are we?" - A question I find myself asking often. My friends ask this often too.

You're probably reading this thinking the same thing. You meet a guy, hit it off. Then you find yourself alone in bed at night with a million questions. You hate being alone, but you don’t want to call him and give him the wrong idea. For real please don’t ask me to Netflix and Chill. You try to play it off cool every time you see them. Show off that your confident, cool and in control of the situation.

You never let them see your emotions since you don’t want to seem weak. You're constantly thinking does he like me? Is he seeing anyone else? How many other guys is she talking too? Is this going anywhere? Why am I even wasting my time? You don’t even know why you’re having so many emotions about this person. It could be because it's new and interesting. You may not even be interested in the guy but he’s paying attention to you so you keep it going because you want someone to talk to. Your friends ask you what's happening with that guy or that girl but you have no title.

It's so frustrating. You don’t want to ask the person where things are going because you fear they won’t feel the same way. Or that the whole time you were talking you were wasting your time. Soon it's been two years and you're still exactly where you started. Confused and unsatisfied. You want to know, so badly, where things are going but at the same time you don’t want to ruin it.

There is such a stigma in college about dating. It is rare to find couples who maintain a long-term relationship. Honestly, I think it's because people are constantly wondering if someone better will come along. Another factor is cheating. As sad as it is cheating is becoming more and more common. How many times do you hear a guy explaining to his girlfriend I just drank too much last night I didn’t know what I was doing when we made out. News flash your boyfriend, now should-be-ex is a loser and you can do better. So much better. That’s something else we forget too that we should never let another person define our worth. Actually, who cares what anyone else thinks about your actions. I wish the fairytales I dreamed about when I was little were a reality. That’s just not how life works now. I watched movies about love and saw my parent's relationship and I always thought how badly I wanted that someday.

I still remember when I was a teenager and saw couples who were in college and thought I really wanted that for myself. I always believed growing up I would meet the man of my dreams in college and be married by 22. Funny right? I find myself now at 21 and I'm laughing at all the guys I meet. Yeah, I bet guys are doing the same about the girls they meet as well. How are you supposed to take anyone seriously when we never tell each other exactly how we feel?

We play games with each other. I’m a girl. I don’t know how guys operate or what they're feeling. I would rather be hurt than hide behind lies. If you don’t like me tell me. If you're hooking up with fifteen other girls, that’s something else we want to know right away. If you like me then show it. Take me out. Prove that I’m the only person you want to be with.

Be yourself and do that by being honest with yourself and other people. Can I be my 100 percent self around this person? Or am I putting on a show to get them to like me? That’s something else we fear being ourselves because we think we’ll be judged. If this person doesn’t love you for exactly who you are then clearly they aren’t the one for you.