I “met” my fiancé on April 24, 2014, through friends and mainly online. At first, things were awkward (at least for me. I would later find out that my fiancé, John, sent that message just to see if he had a chance - and because I was beautiful according to him). Naturally, though, as we talked more, things became more natural and we connected on a deeper level. It didn't take long until he was eager to ask me out. And, on May 12, 2014, we officially started our online dating life. It wouldn't be for a couple of months that I would officially meet him and go on our very first date.

Two, nearly three, years later, John and I still together. Engaged, even. However, happy years don't happen without trouble. Someone is going to be jealous of the relationship you have with your person. It's inevitable. Trouble is going to arise from silly things. This is true. But the one thing I've learned about when you mix social media in with it is that you have total control over how others view your relationship.

Again, you both have complete control over how others view your relationship, and you have control over how many doors and windows are open to your relationship.

Not every argument you have between you and your significant other deserves a post on Facebook. Not everyone needs to hear about every petty fight you have, nor are they required to hear your one-sided divorce.

I think the problem with social media is that we are all too willing to allow it to interfere with our relationships. Every time someone posts a negative post about the other, a door is opened, whether you realize that when you post your rant about how you hate men or why your girlfriend is a you-know-what.

If you're happy with your relationship, then you need to stay happy. When you fight, keep that private. When you're struggling with something your significant other has done, keep that private and between the both of you. Have respect for your significant other when posting online. Sure, it's your social media, but you should take care to what is posted online.

You're only doing yourself a favor in this.

The takeaway is that social media does not have to ruin relationships and cause trouble if you don't let it. Social media does not have power and influence if you do not give it power and influence. Keeping your drama off of Facebook is the first step in keeping your relationship personal. Keeping your relationship personal keeps your relationship peaceful. Keeping your relationship peaceful will make you and everyone else happier and more confident in it.