17 Lessons I Taught My Ex-Boyfriend
Swoon

17 Things My Ex's Next Girlfriend Can Thank Me For When They're Together

You're welcome.

175
Kelsey Dietrich

Ending a relationship is never an easy thing to do. However, every relationship does have positive outcomes. There is always something to learn either about yourself, other people, or life in general. Sometimes, those learning experiences result from your own revelations and sometimes from what other people have made you realize.

Here are 17 things my ex-boyfriend's next girlfriend can thank me for when they're together:

1. I taught him the importance of communication.

Communication is key in every relationship of your life.

2. I made him aware of love languages

Knowing how you best receive love and how your partner best receives love will offer opportunities to fulfill love tanks so much easier.

3. I encouraged him to get involved.

It's definitely a major turn-off when your significant other has loads of free time and is doing nothing productive with that it.

4. I helped him to develop a purpose.

This resulted from number 3.

5. I taught him the importance of living in the moment.

Being present is crucial to enjoying and fully understanding the experience.

6. I showed him how valuable pictures are.

Take a million pictures (even if one day you do break up, you'll be glad you took the pictures).

7. I taught him NOTHING happens unless there is mutual consent.

CONSENT, CONSENT, CONSENT, gentlemen.

8. I let him know you cannot go days without having a conversation if you're in a real relationship.

There needs to be quality communication to keep any relationship on good terms.

9. I helped strengthen his time management skills

Life is busy; everyone is busy. But if you're truly meant to be together, then you will learn how to manage school, work, family, friends, hobbies, and your dating life.

10. I let him know how important it is to question the world.

You can't always believe everything you hear.

11. I demonstrated how to set goals.

This can be challenging, but it's so worth it in order to develop passions, value preferences, and priorities.

12. I demonstrated how to pursue those goals.

What's even more important than setting goals is actually taking steps to achieve them.

13. I encouraged him to hold the door open (for any and all people).

He never quite got a hang on making this a habit, but perhaps someday it will happen for somebody else.

14. I taught him the importance of family.

Make time to enjoy all of your relatives in your life, even if you don't think that your situation is the best, because at least you have these people in your life.

15. I reiterated that your actions need to align with your words.

If you want anyone to take you seriously, then your actions MUST align with your words.

16. I let him know how important it is to be mindful.

This quality is necessary for all aspects of life, not just in relationships.

17. I taught him the importance of a goodnight message.

You should never go to bed feeling negative. Sending a thoughtful goodnight message is a great way to let the other person know you are the last thing they are thinking of for the day.

Follow Swoon on Instagram.

Report this Content
Lifestyle

These Superfood Beauty Products Show Kale And Matcha Work For SO Much More Than We Thought

Just another summer's day with a cold glass of kombucha on my face.

I've been vegan for about six years now, so a love for fresh vegetables and superfoods has now become a core part of my being. Don't get me wrong. I love my indulgent, creamy pastas and truffle fries more than anyone. But I keep most of my focus on eating clean and healthy so I can indulge guilt-free.

But I'd say about a large part of my diet has always, unknowingly, included superfoods. Being Indian, lentils, beetroot, garlic, ginger, and whole grains have been core essentials on the family dinner table since I could digest solid foods.

Keep Reading... Show less

Now that college is around the corner for most if not all young adults, students once shook by a pandemic now have to shift their focus on achieving their career goals. As if we thought we had it together already! As an NYC girl, I have always seen myself as a hustler, hungry to advance my career in journalism by having one skill: working hard.

Keep Reading... Show less

Kourtney Kardashian has decided to leave "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" after nearly 14 years and although we saw this coming, it breaks our heart that she won't be there to make us laugh with her infamous attitude and hilarious one-liners.

Kourtney is leaving the show because it was taking up too much of her life and it was a "toxic environment" for her.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

We Asked You How You Felt About Resuming 'Normal' Activities, And Some Of Your Answers Shocked Us

The New York Times asked 511 epidemiologists when they'd feel comfortable doing "normal" activities again, considering COVID-19. We asked our peers the same thing, for science.

Last month, the New York Times surveyed about 500 epidemiologists asking about their comfort level with certain activities once deemed normal — socializing with friends, going to the doctor, bringing in the mail. That's all well and good for the experts, but they are a very niche group, not the majority of the population. What do "normal" people feel safe doing? In certain states, we've seen how comfortable everyone is with everything (looking at you, Florida), but we wanted to know where Odyssey's readers fell on the comfort scale. Are they sticking with the epidemiologists who won't be attending a wedding for another year, or are they storming the sunny beaches as soon as possible?

Keep Reading... Show less
Disney Plus

Millions of musical-lovers around the world rejoiced when "Hamilton," the hip-hop-mixtape-turned-musical harder to get in to than Studio 54, came to Disney Plus.

For those who had the luxury of being able to watch it in person and rewatch it with us mere mortals on our screens, the experience was almost as gripping as sitting feet from Lin-Manuel Miranda himself. From the stunning sets, graceful choreography, witty dialogue, and hauntingly beautiful singing, the experience was one even my musical-averse family felt moved by.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Keto Is All Fun And Games Until You're Undernourished And Almost Pass Out

Keto is just another extension of diet culture that boasts rapid weight loss, but at a steep price.

Photo by LOGAN WEAVER on Unsplash

There has been a Keto diet craze going around in the past couple of years, with many of its followers claiming significant weight loss. With any new, trendy diet claiming miraculous weight-loss, one starts to wonder what exactly is happening behind the curtain. The keto, or ketogenic, diet is a very low-carb, high-fat diet that claims to help the body shift its fuel source from carbs to fat. In the medical community it has been prescribed to patients with uncontrolled epilepsy to reduce the frequency of seizures, but other than that there is little conclusive evidence to other potential benefits.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments