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I didn't always fear men and I don't fear all men, but somewhere along the way I definitely picked up a fear of men.  It doesn't really matter what the man looks like...red, yellow, black and white; they can all be scary in my sight.  It's not an overpowering fear.  It's more of a subtle aversion to being alone with a guy I don't know well in any space. 

I have exceptional men in my life who have shown me what a man of character is like and that men of character exist in this world. I have no doubt that there are many good men in this world, but I also do NOT take for granted that every man I pass in my daily life is one of those good men.  It's been proven to me time after time that most men I encounter are not one of those "men of character."  

Something that's come to my attention recently is that most men don't have this fear or aversion that I have; and I know I am not the only girl who gets skittish when they see a man approaching.  

One time when my (absolutely stunning) friend and I were driving down a busy road there was a man in his truck who was purposefully tailing us and very openly staring at us.  We both tried very hard not to look at him or acknowledge his behavior; I tried switching lanes, speeding up, slowing down...anything to get this guy away from us but he just kept tailing.  I finally lost him and my friend and I drove around for an extra bit just to make sure we had indeed lost him before going to our original destination.  The entire time we were being followed he was staring at us, both my friend and I felt extremely threatened. He managed to put the fear of man into both of us even though there were two steel bodies between the creepy guy in the truck and us.  This little story is just one of many that explains why I have developed an aversion to men.

As a younger, smaller person than most men I come into contact with I, feel the need to be hyper aware of their potential to harm me.  

Guy's I have opened up to about this fear don't seem to understand why I'm so scared, but they don't have to.  It's easy for them to walk with confidence when they have the same potential to do harm as the person they might potentially be up against.  They also probably haven't had to deal with staring, commenting, creepy and touchy guys their whole life.  

I bet if my male friends dealt with half the unwelcome attention that I've received from significantly older and larger men throughout the course of my life, they wouldn't be too keen on being alone with random men either. 


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