Just So You Know, There Is No 'Right Way' To Meet Your S.O., Including Tinder
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Just So You Know, There Is No 'Right Way' To Meet Your S.O.

Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, a coffee shop, clubbing, or at your University's library, there is no "right way" to meet your S.O.

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Let's face it, this generation is looking more and more on dating sites and apps for love than in person... and what's the problem with that?

There is no shame in saying you met your boyfriend on Tinder or Bumble. It's super cute when you say you met the love of your life at a coffee shop. Meeting your S.O. at a club might still be an adorable love story. Who are we to say what the "right way" to find romance is? Just because you found your girlfriend or boyfriend on college night at your favorite club doesn't mean that it's any less of a love story. Just because two people found each other through a dating app doesn't mean that the romance they have is any less real.

Especially to the older generation, there seems to be a stigma around finding love on dating sites like Tinder and Bumble. For a while, they were looked at as hookup outlets, which can be true—as with anything—but that is determined by the person using it. However, young singles look to those apps and sites not just to find pointless hookups, and the serious dating statistics from those apps and outlets seems to be on the rise.

The same thing goes for people going to the club and finding someone that way. I personally know a couple that met that way and they are more in love now, months and months later, than they ever have been. They grow together, learn together, and live life to the fullest together. It doesn't matter how they met because that doesn't define their relationship.

I also know another couple who met through an online dating site. They're together, still three years later, and are more in love than the first time they connected over the internet. The backlash that was made over that decision was insane and honestly, disappointing. It seems that people are more concerned with how people met than with how happy they are together.

I know a couple who met at a coffee shop, as well. He was the barista, she wanted a coffee... And they've been together for over a year, happier than ever. Their love story is adorable, but what makes their story "better" or "more sincere" than any other story?

When you think about it, no one has the right to tell you how you should find love and how you shouldn't because they're not you and they're not living your life. You know you better than anyone and you know how you want to meet "the one;" whether that be through a convenient app on your phone, through flashing lights and dancing at a club, while studying at your school's library, or the book-worthy love-at-first-site coffee shop run-in.

Your love story is unique, no matter how you met your S.O. Don't let anyone tell you that your love story isn't real or won't last just because you met through an app or online. If you have true love for who you're dating, the only thing to focus on is the relationship and nothing else.

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